Veteran musician Salawa Abeni has revealed that at 57, some men still wants her hand in marriage.
She told Saturday Beats that she has learnt to treat such men with respect while turning down their request.
Her words:
“Men still pester me for love but I am always very careful with them even though you cannot know which one is good or bad from mere appearance.
“I mentioned it in one of my songs that if I laugh too much, they will call me a prostitute, if I frown too much, they will say I am proud. But it is good to be very diplomatic with them and not to be rude to them.”
Salawa who condemned the rise in the rate of divorce among celebrity couples said that every man or woman needed a companion; therefore people must make their marriages work.
She said:
“The truth is that every adult male or female wants to be in a happy marriage. They should note that two wrongs can never make a right. One has to be cool-headed and patient.
“Those in the entertainment industry need to take things easy. While they make others happy with their talents, they must also make themselves happy by building good homes.”
Maami Ese jare. U said the truth
This is an excellent article. I hope my wife and my mother in-law is reading, and I hope it knock their senses back in place. The grass is NEVER greener on the other side, and if it does appear green check it out, often times is artificial turf.
MARRIAGE SHOULD NOT BE BY FORCE , YOU DO NOT HAVE TO LIVE WITH SOMEONE BEFORE HAVE A MAN IN YOUR LIFE OR HAVE CHILDREN .
YOU DO NOT HAVE TO FORCE YOURSELF TO SOMEONE WHO DO NOT WANT YOU IN THEIR LIFE , YOU CAN LIVE YOUR LIFE WITHOUT MARRIAGE AND BE HAPPIER.
DO NOT WASTE YOUR ENERGY PRAYING OVER SOMEONE WHO CHEAT ON YOU , LET THEM GO WHERE THEY BELONG , DO NOT ALLOW TOXIC PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE.
LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF, IF YOU DO NOT LOVE YOURSELF , YOU CAN NOT LOVE SOMEONE ELSE , DO NOT ALLOW ANYONE TO DRAIN YOUR ENERGY IN THE NAME OF MARRIAGE ,
IF HAPPEN YOU GET MARRIED TO A TOCIX PERSON , LEARN TO TAKE BACK YOUR POWER FROM THOSE WHO WANT TO DRAIN YOUR ENERGY.
DO NOT WASTE YOUR MONEY , GIVEN TO PASTOR , TO PRAY FOR ANY ASSHOLE TO REMAIN IN YOUR LIFE. YOU HAVE TO LET GO OF TOXIC PEOPLE AROUND.
IF YOU HAVE A PARTNER WHO HAS BULLIED YOU AND MANIPULATE YOU,
PLEASE DO NOT WASTE YOUR ENERGY GOING TO NIGHT VIGIL PRAYING FOR WHAT MUST DIE. DO NOT BE DECEIVE, BECAUSE IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH GOD .
BECAUSE YOU HAVE ALREADY BEEN GIVEN THE POWER AND THE AUTHORITY TO CHOOSE HOW YOU WANT TO LIVE .
SO , GETTING RID OF THOSE WHO ARE NOT GOOD IS NOT A SIN. WORK HARD AND HAVE YOUR OWN MONEY. PLEASE DO NOT LET YOUR LIFE DEPEND ON A MAN,
BECAUSE MEN ONLY GIVE YOU GIFTS IN ORDER TO BUY YOU, BECAUSE MEN ARE BUYERS. BEFORE YOU GET PREGNANT, MAKE SURE YOU CAN FEED THE CHILD IF HAPPEN THAT YOUR MAN IS NOT GOOD ENOUGH.
BE HAPPY THAT YOU HAVE A SPERM DONAR. MEN ARE JUST SPERM DONAR , PLEASE DO NOT GO FOR ABORTION , THE CHILD IS YOURS, IF YOUR MAN DO NOT WANT TO CONTRIBUTE , JUST GET YOURSELF A LAWYER WHO WILL CLAIM BACK THE MONEY YOU SPEND.
SO, YOU DO NOT HAVE TO BE A SLAVE FOR ANYONE JUST BECAUSE YOU WANT CHILDREN , ASK YOURSELF WHY YOU WANT TO LIVE WITH SOMEONE.
IF YOU LIVE WITH SOMEONE AND YOU CAN NOT MAKE CONTRIBUTION TOWARDS YOUR MARRIAGE , THEN YOU ARE A MAID NOT A WIFE.
DO NOT THROW YOUR CAREER AWAY IN THE NAME OF MARRIAGE.
Only problem is God doesn’t sanction divorce. Although, adultery is a biblical ground for divorce. While couples should try and make their marriages work, being married does not mean people can dishonor their vows and the innocent mate should or have to live with it. ( Matthew 19:9).
Well said @madameranko! Marriage is not a do or die affair. Life is too short, your happiness depends on yourself, it is honourable to be married but you cannot force a man to remain married to you. It takes two people to be married and remain married, a man who cheats and beats his wife is not worth dying for. A lot of women have lost their lives because of marriage, a lot of women who are alive have mortgaged their destinies for the sake of marriage.
A woman should work hard and be independent whether married or single, if married be a partner and contribute to the success of your marriage but don’t remain in a loveless marriage because you want to please people. You can force a horse to the river but you can’t force it to drink water, you can’t force a man to stay married to you if his heart is with another woman.
I don’t support abortion because you are not married, before you get pregnant as a single lady make sure you can take care of the child with or without a man. Work hard and make your money, your happiness does not depend on a man. Your life is more important, take good care of yourself and your children.