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Why Are Nigerian, African Women Blamed For Husbands Problems?
Oct 8, 2014 – Why Are Nigerian, African Women Blamed For Their Husbands Problems?
I’ve read so many tales, witnessed so many cases, where wives are always at the receiving end of insults, curses, and abuses anytime their husbands fail at their endeavors in life. It’s so common to hear the husbands’ family members turning against these poor women, even when it is glaring that the husbands are at fault, not the wives. Why is this so?
I had a friend (may his soul rest in peace) who died due to colon cancer. He had a very young wife (23 years) old and they had been married for just over 2 years before he died. His family members refused to allow her to attend the funeral, calling her a witch, saying that ever since he met her and married her, his problems had started. And everyone saw how she was running from pillar to post trying to save her hubby. I’m sure if it were another lady, she would have left him a looong time ago.
I read several stories too about wives being tormented by their husbands’ families. (Most recent one in Nigerian tribune) the husband lost his job in Lagos, relied on the wife for finances, later got a job in Abuja, and started an affair with another woman there. When the authentic wife came over unannounced, he got angry and told her to go back to Lagos. She was even contemplating on moving to Abuja but she later didn’t. along the line the husband was duped of a large sum of money he stole from his company by this woman he was having an affair with, and he was fired.
He returned to Lagos with his tail between his legs, and still the wife took him back. Later his mum came over and started saying the wife was the cause of his woes, and stupidly he agreed. They took her to a native doctor to swear she wasn’t the one, but she just didn’t do it. He later left the house, saying he can’t live with her anymore.
There are so many tales like this. I keep wondering why such things happen to the wives. At times it’s true, at times it isn’t. But why? What are you peeps views on this?
[By Classic Guy]
Shana Binn
October 8, 2014 at 2:12 PM
Because most of htem are too lazy they depend on their wives for hensmeat
Topsy topsy
October 8, 2014 at 2:13 PM
Is a typical african thing we should accept responsiblities for our actions and not blame others
Keena
October 8, 2014 at 2:23 PM
Am an ugandan woman dis this has to stop in Africa men pls start being more responsible and stop putting al lyour blame on women
Sizzle
October 8, 2014 at 2:27 PM
NOT AFRICAN, maybe Nigerian!
UZOMA
October 8, 2014 at 3:17 PM
It is the warped mentality of average Nigerian. We Nigerians find it difficult to accept responsibility for our actions. Look at the recent incident involving TB Joshua who was adding three more stories on a house which foundation was for three storey building. He blamed the collapse of the building on UFO and later on Boko Haram.
queen
October 8, 2014 at 7:51 PM
No one should call prophet T.B JOSHUA,,,,say what you want to say and ****!!!!
Chic
October 9, 2014 at 11:36 AM
Thank you the writer, I also keep asking the same question. You know what, women has a tender and kind heart that if our husband does not have and is not doing well we like supporting them but some times you noticed that when they get money the will be keep late nights and be doing abominable things without remembering their wife though there are still good men among them.
The issue is most of the time, men allows their family to influence their marriage negatively. Any man that listen to the mother, father , brothers in every thing even the one he could handle he still go to his people for advice even when it is not necessary is not a good husband.
Bible said a man and a woman shall leave their mother and father and become one flesh to the other. As long as a man keep seeking information from his mother, father, sister, brother on her to handle his marriage and the issues, that marriage will never stand. for your marriage to grow avoid third party and always be prayerful.If we count the number of broken marriages today in Nigeria,almost all the faults were from the husband family.
Also if you have a partner who is a fault finder and also , it is a big problem,because he/she will always pick offense in any little thing.
Another major problem is unforgiven spirit, it is important for husband and wife to forgive each other and also their personal self, It is very important for husband and wife to forgive each other when offended and also we need to forgive our personal self by not reminding our self what we did what we did not do or what we would have done there by hurting ourselves inside. After all the when God forgives us he does not remember it again , that is why the bible say remember not the old things, behold, I will do a new thing. Marriage is very sweet when there is peace and without peace we can not achieve anything.
Finally prayer is the key, every husband and wife should always pray every time regards to their marriage because God is the foundation of every good marriage.
Uzoma
October 9, 2014 at 2:12 PM
Chic, you said it all. God bless you. Let me add to your comment. There are lots of married women who listen to the advise of their parents, brothers and sisters to the detriment of their marriage. I know some who secretly pay their grown brother’s house rents and funnel money to them.
KC
November 26, 2014 at 9:00 AM
I tire ooh!
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