What Father Of Triplets Who Committed Suicide In Kogi State Said Before Killing Himself – Wife

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November 5, 2017 – Mother Of Triplets Cries Out As Husband Commits Suicide In Lokoja Kogi State

Wife Reveals What Father Of Triplets Who Committed Suicide In Lokoja Kogi State Said Before Killing Himself

Grace Soje, the wife of late Edward Soje, Kogi State civil servant, who committed suicide on October 16, 2017 is still in shock over the death of her husband.

The widow told Sunday Punch that her husband showed no signs of depression the last time she saw him alive.

Mrs Soje who is still in a private hospital in Abuja told Punch she wasn’t informed of her husband’s death until October 31st.

Still struggling to come to terms with reality, the widow said;

“I learnt of my husband’s death on Tuesday. I was not even informed because my phone was taken away from me after I gave birth. But on that particular day, I saw my phone lying around and it was switched off.

“So, I turned it on and saw my brother-in-law’s text message in which he said he had gone to pick up his dead brother’s corpse. It was at that point that I started screaming that they have killed my husband.”

Grace told our correspondent that she saw her husband alive on October 14, during the naming ceremony (christening) of their triplets– Elijah, Elisha and Enoch.

She explained that she was the one who asked him to go home to rest and put things in order and then come back to the hospital.

Mrs. Soje stated:

“We did the naming ceremony at the hospital on October 14 and there was no quarrel whatsoever. We only asked him to go home and rest because the hospital was filled up and the nurses were driving people away.

“So, I told him to go home to rest and return in the evening so that we could plan how to move our car and some other things from Kogi. That was the last time I saw him.

“On Sunday, we waited for him to come but we never saw him and his phone was switched off. So, my cousin, who was staying with me, went to the house but didn’t tell me anything but she told my elder sister what she saw in the house such as the cardboard where he left a message.

“He said God would preserve me and that I should take care of the boys. It was on Monday that my elder sister called me to ask if I saw what was in the house but nobody was explaining anything to me.”

“One of the nurses told me that when I was in the theatre and the babies were born, my husband was rolling on the floor, praising God. He bought banana for the nurses. Even my tenants in Lokoja said on Friday, my husband was very joyful and told them that he was going to stay in Abuja for a long time to take care of his children.

“We never quarrelled. In fact, my blood pressure was high and he was the one who calmed me down and asked me to rest and keep my phone aside.

“He never gave me any sign of anything; nothing! On Tuesday, his nephew, who lives with us and happens to be a civil defence official, called me, saying that my husband came to his house and was saying some things that he didn’t understand.

“He said my husband was complaining that he didn’t own any property and that all the properties belonged to me. So, I asked him, when my husband was saying all these things, why didn’t he take him to relatives’ house or lock him somewhere?”

“I don’t know if he committed suicide because of salary because I am not a Kogi State civil servant. After all, he has not been collecting salary since January but we have been managing my own salary. So, I don’t know.”

“Nigerians should assist me so that I can take good care of the children. We have not been able to settle the hospital bill. We have been given a bill of N1, 627,000 by the hospital but one of the triplets had to be taken to the National Hospital for a surgery and I don’t know how much his own bill is right now.”

16 thoughts on “What Father Of Triplets Who Committed Suicide In Kogi State Said Before Killing Himself – Wife

  1. TWO THINGS,EITHER HE WAS BAFFLED WITH THE OVER ONE MILLION HOSPITAL BILL TENDERED TO HIM AND COMMITTED SUICIDE OR SOMEONE BEHIND IT.WHO SWITCHED THE CELLPHONES OFF?IF I MAY ASK,WHAT IS WRONG WITH THE LEADERSHIP IN THE COUNTRY AND ESPECIALLY KOGI.YEYE DINO DESERVED WHAT HE GOT WHEN STONES RAINED ON HIM AND GOVERNOR SHOULD BE STONED AS WELL FOR OWING SALARIES SINCE JANUARY.THIS MATTER SHOULD BE SERIOUSLY INVESTIGATED

    • She had triplets after a long time, she had high blood pressure and her husband died. A woman in this situation cannot be allowed to have her phone on because that phone wont stop ringing. Its really unfortunate whichever way the matter is viewed because their long awaited joy ended up in sorrow. May God send her help and comfort her. Lets just wait and see how humane the people at Kogi’s helm of affairs are.

  2. You knew that your husband was just a COMMON state worker who was owed several months salary,yet, you did not patronise a government hospital, rather you chose to use a private hospital. There are so many GOOD government hospitals in that your Abuja where all women there troop out to for delivery.You chose a private hospital,you’re now asking for donation of about #2m Two Million Naira now JUST to get out from the hospital. Would you ask for donations again to take care of the children. From your narrations,one could deduce that you are not a good woman to your late husband and you did not treat that man well at all.You think Nigerians are fools? hear yourself, the same man asked you to off your phone,you did, you used your hands to put it beside you,and ever since then,you didn’t put it on again until 31st,since 14th that the man left you in the hospital. From your story, you are a wicked and nagging wife. The financial stress/load coupled with the family stress you put on that man made him committed suicide. The pressure and anger you put on him to go and look for huge amount of money to offset the hospital bill made that man to commit suicide.

    • How unfair can you be Mr…..i can’t but imagine what your home is like.. Whose wife’s joy is it to loose her husband? If you can’t help, keep your wild opinions and ideas to yourself. No one asked for your opinion in the first place!!!

    • @Mayor, you are on point. When a woman/wife becomes the bread winner, the husband/boyfriend becomes a useless and stupid man. Let’s hope that is not the case here. RIP Mr. Soje.

  3. Only God knows the the reason of his death. All I can say is that government should at all times motivate workers so that they will be happy and enjoy working and in this way, no one will think of dying. R.I.P

  4. Omg mayor . Beware of your tongue cuz it will end you up in hell fire . The woman was having.triplets and not one baby remember , and she needed a better hospital . If you can’t sympathise or help her , pls don’t say anything . God knows best and will provide for her.

  5. Is it true somebody said the man is not the owner of the triplets. Thats the killer statement. The woman has not been living with the husband for quite a while. Abuja to Lokoja…husband with no salary, husband with no child having a wife 2 hours away and the man pretending he had a wife. Free woman desperate to have a child in spite of a yeye husband who does not have money and cannot father a child !!!!!
    This is what killed the man. Wait a minute, The man was said to have complained that he did not have any property in this world and that all the property were his wife’s. You see for a 52 yr old man who cannot boast of anything and in a hopeless state like KOGI, death was the next thing. Anyway he should not have done that . He should have left the woman terrorist and love his own life. I ve always believe that all this mad rubbish about compulsory marriage can only work when things go fine

  6. What a heartless comment @major. You heard her well they have been managing her salary since January , how is she a bad woman? If u followed d story u will know that they have been trusting God for d fruit of d womb for a very long time, may be she needs close observation hence the need for a private hospital. RIP to d dead and may God raise helpers for the babies.

  7. @Mayor, I live in Abuja and cannot patronize any government hospital for any child birth. they are very careless that you may loose either your life or the life of the child. Government hospital in Abuja works for those without complications during child birth. So you there not advice that woman to go to government hospital for that kind of complicated birth. moreover, that man is not supposed to killed himself for the challenges of life, he doesn’t know what the future holds for him, he should have waited for his God rather than killing himself.

  8. STUPID MAN , SO JUST BECAUSE YOUR WIFE HAVE THREE BABIES , SO YOU HAVE TO KILL YOURSELF , WHEN YOU CAN EASILY GET HELP EVERYWHERE OR TAKE THE CHILDREN TO MOTHERLESS BABIES FOR ADOPTION .

    STUPID MAN, I HOPE YOUR FAMILY DID NOT SAY , GOD GIVE AND GOD TAKE AWAY , BECAUSE THEY MUST UNDERSTAND THAT YOU ARE JUST A LAZY MAN .

  9. To commit suicide at such time in their lives.. living the wife and triplets.. really!!!.. They’ve been managing all along.. the journey starts with a first step.. Why give up before trying.. He was selfish and cruel to his family..

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