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I Have Been Engaged For 5 Years But My Fiance Has No Wedding Plan
By Gold Myne
My Fiance Proposed To Me 5 Years Ago But He Has No Wedding Plan, Should I Cut Off The Relationship
I don’t know what will become of me if my worst fears happen to me. How on earth can I wear a ring for five years and still bear my father’s name? My fiance doesn’t even care since he proposed, to him, the right time has to come.
My name is Ebere, I am 31 years old, I met IK 10 years ago during my final year at Nsukka. We have been dating for four years before he proposed to me with a very cute ring.
Altogether, we have been dating seriously for nine good years.
IK is 36 and fully established in all areas. He has a good business, a good apartment and two cars.
I also have a good job and we both love each other. Still, he thinks we should wait. Every time I ask him what exactly we are waiting for, he gets angry and upset.
My friends think I’m crazy for still wearing the ring. They believe he doesn’t want to marry me. I’m so confused. Why would a guy propose to a lady and keep her waiting for five years not counting the years before the ring?
I don’t know what to do. The last time I talked about it, his response scared me. He told me to remove the ring if it made me uncomfortable.
That response keeps ringing in my head. Does it mean he wants to ‘disengage’ me (if there is a word like that)
No word in the dictionary can aptly describe my fear. If he leaves me, I might die. –
I am tired of waiting.
What should I do? I have met his parents, he also met mine, but our parents have not been introduced.
Please help me.
Should I remove the ring and consider myself single or wait till he decides?
Am I just being paranoid? But five years! Remember I’m 31… I love IK, but I’m not sure what’s going on with him and I have a biological clock that does not respect me!
When I don’t mention marriage, he is good, loving, doting and all, but once I mention marriage or stare at my ring finger for too long he gets angry.
I even attempted to get pregnant, but he warned me that would be the end of our relationship as no one would tie him down because of a baby.
Am I still engaged or simply the Chairlady of the ring association?.
Boer
May 22, 2018 at 7:32 PM
if he does not have any plans then make a plan
Darugbo Shetz
May 22, 2018 at 8:12 PM
u are better off without him. he has other girlfriends or even married. move on
Omosalewa
May 22, 2018 at 8:50 PM
Consider yourself single he has another plan , be wise
DB
May 22, 2018 at 9:00 PM
Maybe he has been enjoying wifely duties from you and has nothing to look forward to. Serve him his ring for breakfast and slam the door.
Big Aunty Koks
May 22, 2018 at 9:23 PM
If you remove the ring and he opts to move on without you, notwithstanding the pain, you will be sure of your standing in that relationship. But keeping you in suspense is worse because he succeeds in wasting your time, having you around to do his bidding and while stringing you along he is stopping any other suitors from coming around while you are in your prime.
Take courage and force issues by calling his bluff. If he walks you lose nothing for it will prove that nothing was in that relationship in the circumstances. Wish you the best.
uzoma
May 22, 2018 at 9:27 PM
He is not serious and has no an to settle down. He is obviously seeing other girls behind you and does not want to be tied down. He does not want to get married to you but does not know how to tell you. Use your brain. There are men out there who will adore you. You said you will die if he leaves you and that mea s even if you get married to someone else and he comes back you will cheat on your husband. You love him more than he loves you. Period.
Metu Nyetu
May 24, 2018 at 7:52 AM
QUIT THIS RELATIONSHIP AND GIVE him back his ring. Keeping you guessing at this age is inhumanity to you. This man ain’t gonna marry you. Even if he eventually does(which I doubt), you would not enjoy that marriage. Whoever has regards for your heart would not tell you what he told you. Drop your heart and pick up your head, baby. If you keep following this steel-hearted fellow, you would regret it.
Bunmi
May 24, 2018 at 4:04 PM
He has nothing to offer U. pls drop his ring and move on. God will definitely give you yours!