Is It Safe To Marry A Lady I Slept With On The First Date? I’m Confused..Please Help

Published on June 19, 2018

By Gold Myne

I met a young lady on Twitter about seven months ago. An issue was trending on twitter back then and we had opposing opinions, we kept attacking each other to the point that she insulted me and called me a novice.

I finally entered her DM with the aim of advising her…but she was waiting with an apology which I accepted and we became pals.

After thirty days of chatting non stop we decided to meet! She lives in Port Harcourt while I’m based in Lagos, she arranged my flight, booked my hotel, without asking for money. She told me to give her when we see. I was touched.

So I met Dara, 29, she is not drop dead gorgeous, not beautiful by the standard of many but the most unusually beautiful girl I have seen. Chatty, funny and charming.

She took me to the hotel and long story short, we had sex. She didn’t spend the night with me but returned the next day to see me.

I returned to Lagos with nothing in my heart but the accomplishment of ‘catching’ another girl. I told my friends everything about her, and they laughed at how easily I laid her.

I stopped chatting with her, avoided her calls for two weeks until I realized I was hooked, not infatuation, not the sex, I was in love. I talked to my friends and they thought I was a fool. They called her ‘cheap’ ‘slut’ and all that, they said she’d sleep with everyone like that.

The thing is I don’t think Dara is like that, I think I seduced her and gave her no room to really resist. I called her and apologized for being MIA. We’ve been good since then, but my greatest regret is talking to my friends about her.

They don’t treat her well, they are convinced she is bad. “No one marries the girl they slept with on the first date” they keep telling me.

I love her, I want to marry her, she has given me no cause to worry… I want to believe my friends are wrong on this! Is there a guy here who married a lady he slept with on the first date? Am I safe? I haven’t proposed but I know I want to marry her…

9 Comments

Yomade Jude
June 19, 2018 at 4:44 PM
Follow your heart don’t listen to your fake friend. My fake best friend married my girlfriend because I complained to him about her. They relocated to germany. If u don’t want ur romance story to be like mine, quit asking friends for opinion.
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- Eu
  June 19, 2018 at 4:51 PM
  So sorry my dear I can imagine friend are bad
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  - Eu
    June 19, 2018 at 4:54 PM
    Please marry her that type of person can be trust worthy all of us has stories to tell don’t mind friends if they don’t bit now they will join you later
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Amanda
June 19, 2018 at 5:16 PM
I am not gonna judge her by that. Yourself need to keep your mouth shut.
But are you sure this is love and not LUST?.
Lust is very commonly misconstrued with love. You not gonna figure it out until you are together and then, reality sets in and you begin to hate everything about each other. By that time it is too late to get out of it.
I believe your are lust. Your homones are speaking not you real self.
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Jesuit Onye
June 19, 2018 at 5:38 PM
The ball is in your court. You are man enough to know what is good for you why wait for others
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Sarah
June 19, 2018 at 5:39 PM
I don’t think it is even safe to have sex with a lady on the first date but if you think the fault is yours why did u tell your friends in the first place
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DB
June 19, 2018 at 9:06 PM
It is funny the girl with whom you slept on a first date is called a SLUT while you are a SAINT for travelling all the way from Lagos to Portharcourt to sleep with a girl. As far as I am concerned, both of you suit each other because you seem to have similar foundation. Whether or not you want to build on that foundation rests solely on your shoulders. You are the one that met the girl, slept with her and seemingly know her. I dont think the decision should be hard to take at all, afterall, its yours.
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fifelomo
June 19, 2018 at 9:47 PM
All the best…..
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MADAM ERANKO
June 20, 2018 at 3:44 PM
IT IS NOT VERY GOOD FOR YOU OR FOR THE LADY TO START FUCKING EACH OTHER FOR THE FIRST DATE ,
IT IS VERY DANGEROUS BECAUSE YOU DO NOT KNOW IF THIS PERSON HAVE H.I .V OR ANY KINDS OF DISEASES IN HER BODY.
YOU DO NOT KNOW HOW MANY MEN SLEPT WITH HER FOR THE FIRST DATE, SHE MIGHT HAVE SLEPT WITH SO MANY AND SHE MAY BE SLEEPING WITH THEM TO TAKE THEIR SPERMS, TO DO SOMETHING,
IT WAS VERY DANGEROUS ROAD HAVING SEX WITH JUST ANYBODY YOU MEET JUST TODAY AND YOU END UP IN BED. ALL YOUR FRIENDS ARE RIGHT.
BUT IT IS YOUR DECISION IF YOU THINK YOU WANT TO MARRY HER.
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