My Fiancee Sold Her Engagement Weeks After I Proposed To Her – Heartbroken Man Laments

my fiancee sold her engagement ring

By Gold Myne

I think I am in the wrong relationship, in a wrong courtship, with the wrong woman! I am still shocked that she does not want to marry me!

We have been dating for three years, and I can’t say ‘just’ because its been like 30 years to me.

She came for her NYSC program in Abuja and that was where I met her.

I noticed many odd things about Grace which I overlooked and made excuses for (I really would not like to say those things…)

She hasn’t been the perfect girl but I wouldn’t hold on to that cause I haven’t been the perfect guy too but I love her!

I proposed to her last month! Luckily for me, I didn’t go through the ritual of inviting the world or proposing in an open place, I would have been embarrassed. I literally begged her to take the ring, forced the ring into her finger (again I excused her, maybe she was overwhelmed)

Until Grace sold the ring! I bought that ring for 115K but I didn’t even tell her. She lied to me that she was robbed, and the robbers ordered her to remove the ring.

My mind immediately rejected that explanation, so many things didn’t add up, until I heard from a very reliable source that she sold the ring! I was alarmed, and I tried not to believe but I kept remembering some other episodes that I had overlooked in the last three years!

Some nights ago, I finally saw the proof that Grace sold the ring I painstakingly chose and purchased for her! She sold it for 50K.

I haven’t confronted her… I’m kind of confused. Why would she sell it?

She doesn’t need money, not 50K!

I really want to sample opinions before I confront her, why would a lady I proposed to, sell the ring a week after the proposal?

11 thoughts on “My Fiancee Sold Her Engagement Weeks After I Proposed To Her – Heartbroken Man Laments

  1. Stop fooling yourself, Grace doesn’t love or intend to marry you. Some women don’t like honest, simple men that treat them with respect. They prefer the all over town guy that berates them, treats them like trash and cheats with other women. She’s probably seeing other men alongside you. Why force yourself on a woman who doesn’t want you? I don’t even want to use the word “love “. By law, she must give back the engagement ring if she does not marry you or cancels the engagement, provided you didn’t end the relationship, except for good cause. Once marriage takes place the woman keeps the rings, even if married for short period. She must give back your ring or your money back. You can sue her for restitution. I hope you learned your lesson. A woman with so many issues in a relationship cannot give you peace in marriage. What does she have that other women don’t, to string you along in a one-sided relationship? Don’t ever let anyone use you again. You deserve better in life. Best wishes for the future.

  2. She is not the woman for you. You date or fall in love for beauty but when it comes to marriage, the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, please look for character. No matter how beautiful she is if her attitude is not what you expect please do not bother proposing to her. God made her reveal all the bad signs about her to you but you chose to look the other way (according to you). So, there is no need confronting her. Though engagement ring is in anticipation of marriage but should be returned if the woman changes her mind but in this case she has sold it. There is no way for her or you to get it back from the buyer.

  3. Forget about the girl and find someone else.If you think you can’t leave her,then you are a Fool(sorry to use the word) because its very clear she doesn’t care about you and how you feel.Imagine your wife to be selling your engagement ring for money( who does that? ).You won’t find this anywhere. It has always been joy for girls to get married

  4. I AM putting myself in your place now, bro. The truth I would tell myself is that this woman is no wife material—not for me nor for any other man. A reasonable woman would have returned my ring to me. But she sold it instead. No respect for human feelings and propriety. That’s the end of our us, if there ever was us.

    I WOULD confront her, albeit being very calm, brief, and straight-to-the-point about it, so that she would never know how much pain her selfishness had caused me: A girl like that is nourished by a man’s grief. The reason for his confrontation is for the records: That she may know that she did not fool me about the ring.

    AND SO, I WOULD tell her that I did my investigations, and realized how much she sold the ring I bought at—I would tell her the price. She may try to explain or deny at this point, but I would tell her to let me speak. And I would say a line like, “I remember how I had literally forced the ring on your finger. I blame myself for this, for I should have known you did not want it. A decent woman would have returned my ring to me. But not you: you rather sold it and claimed you were robbed. I only told you this, so that you may know you did not fool me. I hold nothing against you, for I want to live a free life, and leave you free.”

    AT THIS POINT, I WOULD leave her alone.

    • @Metu you are absolutely right but do you think a woman who behaved the way she did will regret her action? Such women have a heart of stone and have no atom of shame. The way you said you will approach her is right but it will enter in one ear and out the other.

      • @UZOMA, WE SHARE the same feelings. I do not hope to change her, nor make her regret. Like I said, I would only confront her to make her know that I knew what she had done with my ring.

  5. Your mistake was forcing yourself on a girl that didnt give a damn about you even though you knew it. Just see it as money paid for your life that could have been destroyed if you still forced yourself to marry her. Who knows maybe she would just wake up one day and stab you and put you penis in your right hand like that wicked lawyer. Guy, you just redeemed you life…..MOVE ON!

  6. They said LOVE IS BLIND but what i am still trying to know , if it’s also deaf and dumb.

    A lady you are dating,then proposed to her with that, she decided to sell it and lied on top of that , this is happening after or almost 3yrs of dating, well, only God knows how sweet is her honey pot to you because that’s what’s controlling your movement. Try to find another woman and leave her alone before she will render you useless

  7. Whaooh, are u a fool or something?? Do u know what marriage is all about? Nobody endures in marriage. Marriage is happiness, joy and peace. I bet if u marry this kind of girl u wont last up to three years cos u will develop HBP. I know some guys can love buh my brother run for your life, u will surely get a girl that loves u d way you are, and will appreciate ur ring. She doesnt love u or care about you, you are just her bank account.
    If u confront her she will try to deny it and trick u again. I advice u just let go, cut her off. Give her space and dnt try calling her. Pls u deserve happiness and go for it.

  8. Folks, there is nothing like love. Love is just about how you feel for others. It is really hard to determine who truly loves you. We are talking about this girl because she manifested her feelings publicly. The person that you think loves you may not necessarily loves you but the least person you think of might be the one holding the key of your love. Love is like the world we are living in which is full of twist and turn. What about those women out there who are professing love to their hubby and doing the opposite? some have even married for years and yet not have a genuine love for their spouse.

    A woman had 3 kids and out of the 3 kids only one belongs to her husband. The secret leaked during immigration test for paternity. Different scenario where love suddenly turns to hatred. It is so sad that the lady refused to reciprocate the same feeling that guy was having for her but trust me, that is the way love goes. Mr. lover, unfortunately you thought buying her such expensive engagement ring will make her loves you, no! you should be thanking your star for not enmeshing yourself in a relationship that will yield nothing but sorrow. If you forced yourself to live with her is just like living with your enemy. Her interest is not channeled towards you. The person she is in love with may not be as handsome as you are but she has already shown you that through her action.

    Just let her go but let her know that you knew she had sold that Ring and don’t try to let her give you the money back to show your maturity. In 5 years time when you find your real love you may not even remember her name again.

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