Shock As Mother Rejects Custody Of Baby & 2 Other Children In Court Today

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August 8, 2017 – Shock As Mother Rejects Custody Of Baby & 2 Other Children In Ibadan Divorce Court Today

There was a mid drama at an Idi-Ogungun Customary Court, Agodi-Ibadan on Tuesday when a woman, Suriat Adewale, rejected custody of her three children including a 12-month-old baby.

Suriat had protested the decision of the court, granting her custody of the children in a divorce suit instituted by her husband, Suleiman Adewale, saying she had no means of livelihood and would not be able to cater for them.

The two other children are aged five and three.

The court did not, however, entertain her plea, a situation which made her to attempt to abandon the kids in court but was prevented.

Earlier, Chief Mukaila Balogun, the president of the court, had dissolved the union and ordered the three kids of the couple to be in the custody of Suriat.

Balogun said the kids were too young to be left in the custody of the husband, stressing that at that age, the mother was in the best position to take care of them effectively.

He also ordered the plaintiff to pay N10, 000 monthly to Suriat for the upkeep of the three children and for both parties to take responsibility of the kids’ welfare.

In the suit, the husband asked the court to dissolve the 15-year-old union on the grounds that Suriat was disrespectful and had abandoned her matrimonial home for five months, leaving behind the three children.

Adewale told the court that Suriat packed out of her matrimonial home sometimes in September 2016 with the kids but returned them last February.

“I pleaded with her to allow the children stay with her for proper care but she refused and asked me to look for a nanny who would take care of the children.

“It has not been easy for me since, because the third child was just seven months old when she abandoned the kids for me.

“I pray the court to dissolve the union and also give her custody of the children so that I would be able to face my business and have money to take care of the children,“ he pleaded.

In her defence, Suriat prayed the court not to dissolve the marriage, saying she was forced to leave her matrimonial home nine months ago to avoid untimely death due to inhuman treatment by her husband.

“Adewale was in the habit of beating and accusing me of committing adultery; I decided to stay away from him, I intend going back to him when I see changes in his character,“ the woman said.

14 thoughts on “Shock As Mother Rejects Custody Of Baby & 2 Other Children In Court Today

  1. YOU should never leave ur home for any reason when you decide to leave pls take ur children along broke or not.

    • So if you had been in her shoe,you would have remained under the roof of that vicious wife beater called husband. Then you would have endangered your life if that had been your discission. Would you have also liked it if your husband accused you of committing adultery without any evidence to back up his claim and beating you mercilessly afterward perhaps on a daily basis? If your life have come under serious threat by an abusive husband, then do know that leaving his home for the time being is the best advise any marriage counselor will give to you. Spare your life first before solution will come.

  2. A question begging for answer is; did the husband have cogent evidence to back up his accusation against his wife of committing adultery? If he doesn’t have, then his beating his wife with no substantive evidence reasonable enough to support his conclusion amount to a threat of life for which the woman was forced to flee from their matrimonial home and seek for refuge elsewhere. Who knows! if she had not ran for her precious life perhaps the report of her death in the hand of her abusive husband is what we will be reading today on Naijagist. Please when your life is under serious threat in the hand of an abusive,violent and cruel husband,do take your leave and spare your head for the time being. And that is what the woman has done, saving her life. You can only beat your wife and evade justice in Nigeria, you don’t dare it in western world. Or else you will find yourself in the midst of hardcore criminals in prison who will beat nonsense out of you. Since the wife doesn’t have a means of sustenance to cater for the three children,the court should have increased the said amount to about N40,000 so as to enable her meet up with the cost of daily living in today’s Nigeria. No wonder she rejected the custody of her baby and her two other children in the court. N40,000 if recommended by the court, would have serve as a grim reminder to the abusive husband that you don’t just file for divorce at your will without reason or without considering the feelings of your spouse as well as the consequence of marriage dissolution.

  3. A woman weyris no want her chudrens is a ashawo. A man weyris beat his wife up an down is a turn to animal. A judge weyris scatter persin marriage is a Babylon king. In a nut share, what God have join together let no man put as other.

  4. Bench…I believe under this condition,the battered woman did what she did to teach her abusive husband a memorable lesson. The husband wants to be free so he can enjoy the freedom of singleness ones more but wanting the woman without the means of livelihood to take custody of those children they both produced. That can never be! If i were the woman I would have done what she did myself. That doesn’t mean she is an ashawo who doesn’t want her children. After all,he beats his wife unjustly and accused her of adultery a case the could not verify. So Since the man is the one that filed for the divorce,then let him take care of the children if it is that easy.

  5. Go with the children before he batters them also just to teach you a lesson but file an appeal for increase in the upkeep.

  6. How do you know it was God that joined them together in the first instance, Bench? Beating a wife for whatever reason is not justifiable, except she is the aggressor who starts the beating. As a woman, I would NEVER leave my children with any man. That is why women should learn how to use family planning to the utmost. We should only have the number of children we can raise alone, man or no man. If the man dies, will she not raise her children? I also feel that N10,000 per month is too small to for three children, but it is based on means and ability of the father to pay. Everyone should learn to stop breeding children they cannot afford to raise. May God intervene and help this couple find peace and wisdom to raise their children in unity.

  7. MADAM, YOU HAVE DONE WELL ,

    I SUPPORT YOU THAT IT IS BETTER TO LET THIS SO CALLED HUSBAND TO EXPERIENCE HELL IN TAKING CARE OF THE CHILDREN,

    HE WILL SMELL RAT IF THE MOTHER LEAVE THEM BEHIND,

    I THINK IT IS BETTER TO LET HIM HIRE A NANNY TO CARE FOR THE CHILDREN, SO THAT BOTH OF YOU WILL BE FREE, FREEDOM FROM THE CAGE. FREEEEEDOM ,

    I AM FREE NOW TO WALK ABOUT ,

    I AM NO MORE UNDER THE SPELL OF THIS ASSHOLE CONNIVING LITTLE SHIT .

    THE WOMAN CAN NOT BE THE ONLY ONE TO SUFFER CARING FOR THE THREE CHILDREN,
    WHILE THE SO CALLED MAN WILL BE ENJOYING HIMSELF WITH ANOTHER PUNANI.

    MAY I KNOW IF THIS MAN IS GOING TO PAY THE RENT FOR HIS CHILDREN ?
    WOULD THE SO CALL 10,000 NAIRA ENOUGH TO FEED THE CHILDREN AND PAY THE RENT ? AND SCHOOL FEES ?

    THE ONLY SOLUTION TO THIS PROBLEM, IS TO HIRE A NANNY AND LET THE CHILDREN LIVE WITH THE NANNY .

    LET THE CHILDREN LIVE WITH NANNY,
    THEN THE MOTHER WOULD GO THERE TO SEE THEM WEEKLY AND THE HUSBAND WOULD ALSO GO TO THE NANNY TO SEE THE CHILDREN WEEKLY,

    BECAUSE IF THE CHILDREN ARE LIVING WITH THEIR MOTHER, THE MAN WOULD SAY I WANT TO SEE THE CHILDREN .

    WHICH MEANS YOU WILL ALLOW THIS LUNATIC TO VISIT YOUR HOUSE AND WHEN HE SEE CHANGES IN YOU, HE WILL START JEALOUS AND PLAN TO DO MORE EVIL TO YOU .

    SO THE BEST THING IS TO LET THE CHILDREN LIVE WITH THE NANNY .

    WHICH MEAN , YOU DO NOT COME TO MY HOUSE AND I WILL NOT COME TO YOUR DOOR .

    THIS IS WHAT I DID TO GAG THE ASSHOLE IN THOSE DAYS OF TROUBLE.

    IF YOU DO NOT HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH SOMEONE WHO IS AN ASSHOLE,
    THEN IT IS DANGEROUS TO ALLOW THEM INTO YOUR CABAN

    YOU DO NOT ALLOW HIM TO VISIT YOUR HOUSE BECAUSE OF THE CHILDREN. NNNNNNNNNNOOOOOOOOOO, NO WAY IT IS NOT ALLOW

    IT IS BETTER FOR THE CHILDREN TO BE WITH NANNY,

    THEN IF YOU WANT TO SEE YOUR CHILDREN,

    PLEASE GO TO THE NANNY AND YOU DO NOT HAVE TO COME TO MY HOUSE JUST BECAUSE YOU WANT TO SEE YOUR CHILDREN.

    THE CHILDREN WILL LIVE WITH NANNY, WHICH MEAN WE HAVE BOTH SCORE 010 , AH AH AH CHIRIOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO WHO CARES .

  8. u left since 2016 AND DID NOT REPORT TO AUTHORITIES WHAT U PASSED THROUGH.u need to stay with the kids and nuture them. look for some work and complement it with the money that comes from your husband.chikena

  9. Children must never be used as scores or pawns to get even in a relationship gone bad. Parents’ primary responsibility is to raise their children. A true mother – Abiyamo tooto knows that her children are not for Nanny or third parties to raise. They never asked to be born. If your children turn out wayward or not as you want, who do you blame? Mothers, please be there for your children, no matter what. Men can father several children with various women but only the successful ones are acknowledged by fathers. My children are my priority and my joy any day. Relationships end but a good investment in our children’s lives pays off and brings us everlasting joy and peace of mind. My daughter received a standing ovation at Harvard Medical school last Friday for thanking me for being both parents to her her entire life and for struggling so she can succeed in life. I shed tears of joy. Putting our children first and sacrificing our lives for our them is part of being a real parent.

  10. Endurance i resonate with your thoughts! In such a worst case scenario government (welfare)should take custody of the kids. cos frm the look of things this children might grow up become wayward and nuisance to the community!another thing i will like to find out is the fate of children that the state in prison both parents, let’s say for a capital offence. who will take responsibility of thr welfare?

  11. @[email protected],you guys have spoken well,@Bench you didn’t speak well at all,Do you know what we women go through in the hands of men just in the name of marriage,A violence man never change except God intervene,for her to have taken the step she did well,just that she shouldn’t have left her kids with her hubby.If i were her i will do same but with my kids.

  12. If neither were willing to take the kids then they should have put them in care. I don’t agree with the crap that the baby needs the mum. What if she dies, what will he do? Men should learn to look after your kids too. Its done in many civilised counties.

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