- Tips and Keys For a Successful Marriage
- 18 Marriage Success Keys Every Couple Must Have!!
Nothing is more difficult than making a marriage work, marriage experts opine. It requires a total commitment on the part of the couple. It is a union between two adults who have different opinions and ideas but have decided to accommodate, tolerate and love each other. Nevertheless, disagreements are bound to arise but nipping it in the bud and settling it amicably is key to achieving success in any marriage.
Setting a marriage on the right path is the dream of every couple. To make this possible, the following tips are helpful:
Put your Spouse First: Marriage is for better or for worse. This means that your spouse is and should be the most important person in your life. In everything you do – decisions and actions, make sure you put your partner at the front burner.
Even if it is a job that is threatening your relationship, leave it. At the end of the day, your spouse is all you have got.
Communicate: In a world of information technology (IT), access, some couples now depend on the social media to communicate, especially while at work. This should however not come in the way of face to face communication. Nothing beats face to to face communication because body contacts, languages and feelings etc are genuinely seen and shared freely.
Go Out Every Once in a While: I know this may sound tiring especially if you both are working and also have kids. The truth is that going out is a really great time to connect and unwind. It is always advised to do this at least once in every month without the children involved.
Be Familiar with Your Partner’s Emotions : Yes, this is the whole process of knowing your partner in totality. Can you tell when your partner is hungry without him/her having to say it? Or when your partner is sad or worried? A good knowledge of their emotions would make for a smooth, hitch free relationship with them.
Have Great Sex: Did you think we were going to not mention this? Well think again because sex is indispensable in every marriage. No matter how tired and busy you may be, never forget to make out time for not only love making but also to kiss, cuddle and caress. This is the most intimate of all ways to truly connect.
Hear, but also Listen: In every marriage, it is always advised to hear what is being said but also to listen to what is being said and not said. Most times, we fail to truly understand what the other partner is trying to say because we do not listen and are only interested in getting our words out. Learn to listen to your partner. Remember, men too like to be listened to, this does not only apply to the women.
Respect and Trust Each Other: Respect and trust are inseparable in every marriage. Learning to respect and trust your spouse makes them to reciprocate those feelings to you. Before doing things, consider their feelings to be sure it does not hurt them. Trust them enough to carry them along in all you do. You would be better off with it.
Set Your Priorities Right: When you allow things such as career, children personal goals etc distract you from your marriage and the relationship you share with your husband, you have lost sight of what is truly important. Make your relationship top priority and your marriage will flourish.
Explore With Your Spouse: I know you would probably think about work and the children but the truth is, if you don’t insist on doing them against all odds, there would be no good time for it because distractions would always abound.
Therefore make out time even if it is twice in a year to really do things you both have never done or rarely do. You could decide to visit another country or state, shop in an exotic store etc.
Work Hard Towards Achieving a Happy Marriage: The moment you realise that marriage takes a great deal of time and effort, the better prepared you would be to work hard. Learn to set aside your personal desires for that of your spouse. Marriage is all about compromise and negotiations.
Maintain the Spark of Attraction: This means maintaining the first spark that attracted both of you to each other. Usually, this is on a physical basis therefore, always ensure you look and smell good. Never assume that since you have been married for a good number of years, he/she no longer cares about your looks. This is a lie that should be disregarded.
This list is inexhaustible. Couples can only seek for better and innovative ways to spice up their marriage. Remember, as there are ways to make your marriage work, there are some tips to also avoid. Some of them include:
Do not Try to Have a Perfect Marriage: Do not be deceived. There is no such thing as a perfect marriage. Every marriage has its highs and lows. Ensure to bring your best into your marriage and hope for the best.
Never Compare Your Marriage: Your marriage is yours and yours only. Never compare it to a seemingly better one (probably a friend’s or colleague’s own). You do not know what they may be going through. Simply focus on making yours the best for you.
Do not Let the Children Put a Strain on your Marriage: Having kids is usually the high point of every marriage. After having them, remember you still have your partner. Do not let having the children and raising them cause a rift between both of you.
Do not be Too Busy for Love making: Love making goes beyond sex. It is both a silent and spoken communion of your love for each other. Therefore, no matter how busy both of you may get, find time to get lost in each other’s arms.
Do not Try to Change Your Partner: If you knew all about his/her class and strengths before marriage, then be prepared to live with them. The more you love your partner with their faults, the more they are motivated to change to become better.
Never Stop Making Plans Together: most couples stop making plans together the moment they get married. This does not have to be so. Most people assume that dive their marriages have come a long way, they begin to separately. The moment this starts, a rift has been created. Still decide when you have a baby and the name, new furniture to buy etc. All these help the keep if alive.
Do not Remain in the Past: There is no marriage without scars but what you do with them is what matters the most. Choosing to move on or dwelling in it is is totally your choice. Remember however that the former would only strengthen your love for each other.
These are indeed the recipes of a successful marriage and even more. So incorporate them into yours in order to achieve the element of surprise and bliss you really desire in your marriage.
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