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I Sponsored Her Education But She Dumped Me For A Wealthy Guy After Graduation, I’m Heart Broken

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July 31, 2016 – I Sponsored Her Education But She Dumped Me For A Wealthy Guy After Graduation, I’m Heart Broken 

I am a young man doing my own business and I got engaged to this pretty girl who is still in school. Since I love her so much, I try to support her in her education as much as I could with the hope that we will be married after her graduation. I paid for her accommodation all through her four year study.

Now that she has graduated and about going for her youth service, I noticed her attitude has changed towards me. I started suspecting her and one day I followed her to an eatery where she met with a rich looking guy.

I was so angry that I confronted her before the guy and she couldn’t deny it. I feel so humiliated.

After wasting so many years of investment on this girl only to find out she has been cheating on me with other men is devastating and I feel so heart broken.

What do you think I should do?

[Chinedu writes from Aba]



  1. fifelomo

    July 31, 2016 at 2:23 AM

    Accept your fate. What’s meant to be for you can’t be for someone else. If you love her and she doesn’t love you, that means there’s fire on the mountain. Both of you must have feeling for each other before getting married. My Frnd I can only wish you goodluck let her be if she doesn’t love you. I hope you are educated? If not do that fast.

    • Marcus Garvet ll

      July 31, 2016 at 10:35 AM

      Absolutely! Though it is painful, the gentleman should bravely move on….He is probably fortunate to have been struck by disappointment at this point, instead of later on, when it might have been worse. I have had my share of disappointments but consider myself fortunate to have realized my mistakes early. All will be well, my dear sir…

  2. Maryf

    July 31, 2016 at 2:31 AM

    Forget that girl and look for a cool headed and responsible girl and get married to. Its only God that will judge her, I assure you that she will never be happy and satisfied with her rich lover.

  3. Eziokwu

    July 31, 2016 at 2:32 AM

    Life is not fair sometimes. Upgrade yourself first before anyone.

  4. Amanda

    July 31, 2016 at 3:31 AM

    This is sad man. There is no easy answer like “move on”. Girls! this kind of thing hurts a lot. Why she didnt stop him from funding her education instead of wasting the dude’s time?.

    This silly behavior is very common now. I feel bad for you. I am sure money you spent on her is not necessarily the problem. It only becomes problem when you think of the time wasted when you could have found someone and perhaps married by now.

    I feel sad. Really sad because it happens to a friend of mine in the US. This hurts I swear. My advise for this dude is take the time off and hang out with good friends, play soccer or your favorite sport. Dont get drunk. All I am trying to tell you is dont stay home alone because you will be overthinking and missing her while she doesn’t give a fig leaf about you. If you stay home by yourself, you will be imagining things like the b!tch you spent your hard earned money on is currently having intercourse with another man. You know, that hurts.

    Go out and engage with people. Slowly but surely you will get over it. There is no easy way my man. You gonna get hurt for a long time but don’t allow that to depress you. Get rid of her things in your possession or at least hide them in a place where you cant see them. Erase her number and pictures from your phone. If you give up completely on her (which is very hard), if Allah in His infinite Mercy wishes both of you to be together in the future, there is nothing that can stop it. She will eventually look for you.

    As someone earlier said, she wont be happy for very long. But be careful if she comes back to you while already pregnant or have a baby, you may have to ditch her. If that happens, she comes back for dubious reason and will eventually return to her baby father.

    Dont worry my man. Karma is a b!tch

    • Metu Nyetu

      July 31, 2016 at 11:17 PM

      @Amanda, you are a real love doctor.

      • Amanda

        August 1, 2016 at 12:57 AM


  5. Olaizo

    July 31, 2016 at 4:56 AM

    Even guys used to slept with her in that house u rented for her at school, this very man u saw with her is not her 1st time, the man is d new fish for her, d only silution gor u here is to go ahead in your ways and look out for anothet girl, na so dem be. Finding good lady to marry is like playing lotto, u win or u loose, so keep trying person no dey die.

  6. Bench

    July 31, 2016 at 5:24 AM

    Is only a mumu weyris train womens for school bicos womens are disapoint mens any how. Womens are cause all the wahala for this world. When your follow mens are beg you money you are not gree. When you are see your follow mens you are hide the money. But when you are see womens you are bring out all the money. Is dey for nature. Mens are mumu all the time. How is somebody carry all his money to say is a woman he is train for univasitting? See wetin she have do you.

  7. desmond

    July 31, 2016 at 5:38 AM

    I so much luv ur comment Amanda…

    • Amanda

      August 1, 2016 at 12:58 AM

      Thanks :)

  8. D Hunter

    July 31, 2016 at 6:49 AM

    Many foolish guys out there now and before had made this mistake in the past and are still making this avoidable mistake today! They allowed this breast-chested creatures to make a fool out of them with a baseless HOPE untill their kingdome comes: Graduation.

    Rubbish, no girl born of a woman can play over my intelligece that easy without getting it hot herself.

    The questiotn is, was his funding the said lady‘s education tied around any understanding that they will eventualy get married at the end of the day?

    I take a stroll…

    • Elias Henry

      August 1, 2016 at 10:25 AM

      D Hunter I like that…u said my mind

  9. Danti

    July 31, 2016 at 8:32 AM

    Quiet son of Africa, you are lucky to know this! Some men in similar circumstance were not that fortunate. See this event as a preparatory lesson on human reliability, always learn to trust God. It is painful, but never openly say anything that could incriminate you when hellish shit happened to that bitch. Just carry your “cross” and move on. Do not get got by inductive calculus of the devil- he is in business to denature your destiny, but with faith in the Lord, my Papa go send to you the correct woman wey go like you finish.

  10. Sam

    July 31, 2016 at 8:35 AM

    @amanda nice talk

    • Amanda

      August 1, 2016 at 1:03 AM

      Thanks :)

  11. Bokemb

    July 31, 2016 at 8:37 AM

    thats why u be Aba man, did u make her know that u want to marry her, why dont you do the tradition rights, or pay her bride prize.

  12. Truce

    July 31, 2016 at 8:53 AM

    Take heart, what goes arround comes arround, its good she showed her true colours now, you will definitely find a more responsible girl who will be d bone of ur bone.
    Wish u luck.

  13. emeka

    July 31, 2016 at 9:00 AM

    she is nt ur wife

  14. sola olaniyi

    July 31, 2016 at 9:24 AM

    some girls are heartless sha

  15. Endure

    July 31, 2016 at 9:37 AM

    Sorry and carry on. Yours is by your door step and the one that has gone is not yours. Don’t give.

  16. iyke

    July 31, 2016 at 11:06 AM

    is o comon game of 9ja girls nowadays. alot of them get killed for this. me i will kill d girl, that girl deserve to die. any how. i will recomend okija and co. if u cant send me her picture name, date of birth, every crime have its price.which is punishment. and she must be punish

  17. Big Aunty Koks

    July 31, 2016 at 1:56 PM

    I feel for you man if ushe led you on and then jilted you for another man. But painful as you may find my question, I want you to answer yourself honestly. Did you propose to the girl and she accepted to marry you before you embarked on spending on her? If so what do her people say? Someone might be able to talk sense into her that all that glitters is not gold. However, sad as the fact is, if you did not TELL her you want to marry her and was working of the presumption that because you were spending on her she will marry you, you could be wrong about her purpose for befriending you all along.
    Again, if you did not actually propose to her SHE might feel YOu did not want to marry her. Confronting her in front of the guy is not conclusive that she does not want you. She might just be too surprised at seeing you there to know what to say. Set up a meeting between you and her people or with somebody she respects that knows your relationship and ask her for an explanation. Best of luck!

  18. ttt

    July 31, 2016 at 2:00 PM

    my brother forget that money and move on take it like money you spent buying casket that will be buried for sure
    this is the reason the good once don’t get help

  19. Ken

    July 31, 2016 at 2:14 PM

    Sorry bro.young men please I beg you in the name of God,never sponsor any girlfriend or fiance education with the hope that you will marry her in future.i say never!To be on the safer side make her your wife before embarking on any project of sort.

  20. AH

    July 31, 2016 at 2:25 PM

    send her a letter ****, Jare

  21. Lordnas

    July 31, 2016 at 3:34 PM

    Bro put up a smile and walk over it. Sometimes things happened to move you a step forward. There must be a reason of a sudden change of attitude, maybe she is not meant for you. Broken heart is not a broken destiny, cheer up you will find a love again!

  22. betty

    July 31, 2016 at 8:52 PM

    move on dear, she will come begging someday


    August 1, 2016 at 4:12 AM

    My dear Brother, Kindly move on wit ur life and this is the right time for u to serve God because this is a temptation time in your life where different advisers/bad things comes into ur life. God is your strength. This will also serves as a lesson to we young men outside there to be very careful with women especially promise to be wife to be or husband to be. Mark my word, she won’t find peace in hermarriage. If she likes, let her marry pastor or imam.She will eventually be a single mother, inshort triple mother without a husband. Watch out for that. I give u 1 year, God will give u ur own flesh and blood as a wife IF you do not revenge. God bless us all.

  24. huchennar

    August 1, 2016 at 8:02 AM

    i do not bliv that people still make this silly Mistake in the name of love… my brother my only advice is *JUST_MOVE_ON*

  25. OBASI

    August 1, 2016 at 9:44 AM


  26. chukwudi

    August 1, 2016 at 12:27 PM

    such a thing happens sometimes ago but the man proof the woman that he is a man and not woman , he blocked the woman not to get any married until she became old without marriage and children. if i am in his position she can never go free, juju must go on. man makes man to be wicked.

  27. Ik Togo

    August 1, 2016 at 3:54 PM

    The man is a leaner in this new generation he is training a lady before marriage, I thought we learn from others mistake so he is still mugu.

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