I’m Married To A Nigerian Man In Canada But My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Divorce – Please Help

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July 28, 2013 – I’m Married To A Nigerian Man In Canada But My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Divorce – Please Help

This letter is from a liberal reader identified as Mary who is currently having issue in her marriage.

Please read her message below and give her your input. Thank you

I am a Canadian who married a Nigerian man 7 yrs ago. We soon had a baby. i joined him after i had the baby in another city. After my maternity leave money ran out he could not support us. He sent me home to my parents. I lived there and worked a year then i went back.

He would act irrationally like accusing me of thinking evil thoughts of him when we were driving to a friend’s house, he turned around and refuse to drive.

He had a lot of unknown dealings with his friends which he never explained.

I got pregnant again, and he tried to convince me it was only tissue in me and we should get rid of it. I was aghast, i would never kill my baby.

He got angry and said i either do this or go back to my parents and work. i did this and am still here 4 yrs later. He was not around for the birth of either boys. i was in the hospital for 2 weeks with baby complications, he never came, but would tell me on phone i had to name the baby what he said or there would be problems.

I used the name he gave for second name. he has only sent 400 dollars in 4 yrs. i have now filed for child support and custody but not divorce.

Do I keep on with this and eventually divorce and move on?

I believe i loved him and we had some good times too. I want my boys to have a dad, but i don’t want to return and have more problems but i hate divorce too. what do I do? I’m a praying woman please help.

27 thoughts on “I’m Married To A Nigerian Man In Canada But My Marriage Is On The Verge Of Divorce – Please Help

  1. If everything you wrote is true, I will suggest you go for divorce… This man doesn’t love you. PERIOD.
    Don’t kill yourself bcos of a man who cares less about you.

    I’m a man and I will tell you the truth.

    God help you

    • @Mercyme why not shut the f**k up if you have nothing good to tell this woman.

      Are you a woman or an animal…. mtcheeeeewwwwwwwwwwwwwww. fool

      • @ Olanre : im sure u do av a problem wit me comment, then y dnt u say something, dat u feel u’er ok wit? Instead of saying Nothing. Every body av there own opinion in every matter. and stop being disrespectful ok.

  2. hi my sister
    pls dont leave ur husband
    if God time come he will be with u in a peace
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  3. Woman I pity your condition.. It’s very terrible to end up in the hand of a poor man who doesn’t love you.
    From the situation of things, your husband is either jobless or a lazy man.
    I’m in Canada myself and I can never date a Nigerian based in Canada… over my dead bodies… Most of them have wives back home.
    They are tied to their responsibilities back home.

    As Yinka has earlier said, he doesn’t love you. It’s time to move on and forget about this man.

    Work hard to take kia of your boys.

    Be strong all the best.

  4. Sorry to hear your problem but you have to pray… Let God show you if the guy has another wife somewhere so you can save yourself from headache.

    From the look of things, this guy is not man enough to be your husband.

  5. I’m sorry to read your story. From what you’ve written here, I see you’ve both lived apart for more than half the time of this marriage.Is that really what marriage is about? The children need both parents, especially in their formative years. I liked your last phrase “I’m a praying woman”. Prayerfully seek God for your next line of action.He will lead you to your happiness. A word of advise though: you don’t have to listen to all being said to you on this issue because at the end of the day, you have to live your life. Your happiness and the children’s is all that matters now. In my opinion, your husband has never been ready for this marriage. I pray God directs you on the right path. Remain strong…

  6. pls my sister i filled your pains,but dont divoice your husband God is against it,is a terible sin,pray to God for him,he will definitly come back to you.i will be praying for you.The almighty God will see you through.

  7. Swtie, u r a vry strong woman. u Hav endured all this yrs, n u Hav to move on. Get hold of urself, face d ugly truth. He does nt luv u. Even though he is nt workin, he should Hav been supportive in any way he can, make u hapi, be there for u n d boys, make u smile in gud n in bad times, nt gettin u pregnant n being irresponsible. You were blinded by luv, its time to wake up, move on n u’ll definitely find luv again, wit d right person, a real man dat is more deserving. It is well wit u.

    • ABEG ABEG… R U SURE HE IS NOT WORKING? FOR ALL I KNW HE IS DOING 419 THERE. AND THRE REASON HE IS AWAY FROM HER IS SO THAT HE CAN MEET THE PEOPLE FACE TO FACE ND BE IN A ‘RELATIONSHIP’ TO GET CASH… LETS BE REAL HERE….

  8. It is clear that you love this man and he doesnt love you. And since you said you are a prayerful woman, i assume that you are paring to GOD, so please kindly remove any thoughts of devorce in you head or mind because God does not entertain dervorce at all. Just remeber the vows you made while getting married to your husband, for better ow for worse…this is the worst so stick with him, for richer or poor, you are stuck with him, in sickness and in health he is still that same man you fell inlove with and you promissed to be with.
    Contnue to pray i know God surely answers the prayer of his children. He is with you just exercise a little more patience.

    Take charge of your life and dont look for easy way out and pitty from people who dont even care about you.

  9. I DON’T KNOW WHAT YOU BELIEVE IN, WITH GOD ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE. PEOPLE DOWN HERE ARE WORSE OFF THAN YOU. GET BACK TO WORK, GET ON YOUR KNEELS, BE FOCUSED LET YOUR HUSBANDS ISSUE BE HISTORY FOR NOW. I MAY NOT KNOW HOW IT STARTED, BUT YOUR COMPLAIN IS NO PROBLEM AT ALL. SO YOU CAN BE A SINGLE PARENT IF YOU CAN WORK HARD. STILL PRAY FOR HIM ALWAYS IS IMPORTANT. YOU WILL SUCCEED.

  10. Wil my sister d trth abt evrytin is dat evry human shuld be hppy, so my advice is u 4get him nd move on wit ur life. Becos dat man dont luv u let no one tel u 2 hp on a tin dat wil not hppn luv is not wht we learn bt wht cames frm d heart so ur husband dont luv dont stay nd be wasting ur time go on wit ur lif GOD wil see u trugh gdluck.

  11. Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate. God can restore any marriage no matter how battered or broken. Stop talking to people and get on your knees with God ok.

  12. God can restore any marriage no matter how battered or broken. Stop talking to people and get on your knees with God ok.

  13. Even though you are facing all this problem, but i still suggest that you pray to God to bring your husbands back to his censes,Remember Married is for better and for worse, so no matter how much he careless about you if you stay in there i can promise you that one day he will ask him self a question and will be looking for answers and those answers will have to come from you. Remember good things come to those who wait.Just keep praying to defeat the devile. I beleive both Chrician and muslims will agree that when God Created Married he also Created Divorce as well, but you have to have enough reason to request for Divorce from your husband. If you ask me unless he ask for it i will stay apart from him for now but still keep the married and leave the rest to God to Judge him—may Allah Bless you and your Children and keep you stay as a good woman that you are from the look of things amy you leave long and withness your own happy days.—Ameen
    My peace of advise for you

  14. go and deal with ur problem..its for better and for worse.if its good make it better and if its not work around it.

  15. Helo my dear,pls don’t divorce dat man,if u can work nd take care of ur boys go on pls nd remain focus wit God,4 ur man put him in prayers wit God everything is possible,wheather e comes once a yr or nt God always make a way were there is no way,i ve seem kids train single handedly by their mother 2day dey re men nd women of subtance in d society.jst remain wit God e will c u through nd u will enjoy d fruit of ur labour frm ur children by God Grace,God we strainghten u in Jesus name.

  16. my dear I feel ur pains and trouble and thank Gid dat u are a praying woman but what are we really prayin about we most te indirectly pray for our need and for our husband ,we ask God for wat we want for ourself pls read this book the power of a praying wife. by stormie Omartian it has help me and many women. God bless you

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