By Faith Oyedepo
Dear Reader, welcome to another impactful week. God has made provisions for marriage to produce good for us, but we have a responsibility to develop that plan. Marriage can be likened to the negative film of a picture. The photographer must spend time in the darkroom developing the negative and come out with a beautiful picture. A negative must be developed before it becomes enviable. The same thing applies to marriage. You must develop your marriage by doing those little things that you may think don’t really matters.
So far, we have seen the potency of words in transforming marriages. This week, God has another powerful secret for you and that is, the secret of Touching and Giving of Gifts in enhancing the relationship in your home.
Sometimes, a touch speaks just as much as words. It communicates “I am in touch with you.” It keeps the fire of love burning when words seem clumsy. When this vital factor of touch is lacking, the couple stay aloof and withdrawn. The atmosphere in the house is usually tense. This is a very important act.
A touch communicates warmth. For instance, when a husband puts his arms around his wife, it brings warmth that neither money nor words can produce. Husband and wife, study to be romantic. Couples are to be “ravished” by each other’s love! God’s Word says: …Be thou ravished always with her love (Proverbs 5:19) “Ravished” means transported by delight. It works!
Husband, there may be times when your wife is down physically. Remember that “love is medicine.” At such times, all you need do is to show a little more love and she will be well! Some kind words, a little physical touch, some kisses or a little gift from you makes a whole lot of difference to your spouse!
Some people have a strange mentality that it is only the man that should give gifts or touches. No! the woman can also initiate this and it does not have to be only on special occasions. You may decide to give your spouse a gift just for the sake of it. You don’t have to have a reason to present a gift to your spouse. You must understand that these little things go a long way to create a peaceful atmosphere in the home.
The truth is: Your thoughtful act, touches, appreciation and show of love can heal your spouse from any kind of illness. The time he or she would have spent at the doctor’s office could be used by you to demonstrate your love to him or her and you wouldn’t need to spend your money on drugs anymore!
I’ll never forget an experience I had some years ago. There was a time when I was really down physically. My husband went out one of those days and came back with a little gift, beautifully wrapped and personally presented to me; to further express his love for me. Could you believe that little act of love from him brought me health and I never needed medication? There’s no woman who hates to be loved. These are little things, but they have the ability to lift up your marriage. Love is medicine!
God so loved the world that He gave His son! If you claim to love, it must find expression in giving. A thoughtful little gift at the right time can work wonders! You must make it a point of duty to remember special days such as birthdays, anniversaries, special occasions, and share the joy of the moment by exchanging gifts.These were the things you did while courting; you shouldn’t let them slip by just because you are now married.
A gift at the right time to your spouse can enhance your relationship and make it more precious. Remember Elkanah and Hannah? Elkanah was sensitive to the needs of his wife. He had so mastered the art of ministering to Hannah’s emotional needs that he could say to her, …Am not I better to thee than ten sons (I Samuel 1:8). Be the relief and strength your spouse need at specific times. Let him or her be sure to say “I know if I am with my spouse I will feel better.” Let you actions each moment be filled with love and commitment to building your home and your labour will be rewarded with the bliss you desire in your home. You will not fail in Jesus’ name!
If you are not born again, it will be impossible for you to benefit from what has just been discussed. You become born again by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus Christ as the Lord and Saviour of your life. If you are ready for this new birth experience, please say this prayer in faith: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. I accept You as my Lord and personal Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for delivering me from sin and satan to serve the living God and thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.
Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are now born again and a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).
With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through [email protected], 07026385437 OR 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).