Saturday Nov 18, 2017 – How To Use Wisdom To Make Your Marriage Shine Like Gold
Identify Your Husband’s Weaknesses & Help Him Work On Them, Appreciate His Strengths & Correct Him In Love – Faith Oyedepo Tells Women
By Faith Oyedepo
One of my greatest joys would come when your home, life, marriage and relationship with God experiences a quantum leap. The truth is: these teachings are ordained to produce positive all-round results for you.
Wisdom, as you have learnt so far, is hearing the sayings of our Lord Jesus Christ and doing them. It is the correct application of knowledge. It demands that you take steps in applying correctly the knowledge God is bringing your way today via this teaching. Only then, will you begin to reap the fruits of a successful home. The Bible says: Therefore whosoever heareth these sayings of mine, and doeth them, I will liken him unto a wise man, which built his house upon a rock (Matthew 7:24).
Wisdom is the principal thing on which all other aspects of life rest. A home is meant to be built for it to be successful. The Bible says: Through wisdom is an house builded; and by understanding it is established (Proverbs 24:3). Therefore, to build a successful home, wisdom is required.
It is very important to know that every woman, according to God’s own design, has a home and whatever becomes of that home depends on the woman. The wise woman will always engage all to make her home a delightsome place. The Word of God says: Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands (Proverbs 14:1). Do not operate in foolishness.
Do not pluck down your home with your own hands; rather, operate in the wisdom of God. Abide with God’s instructions, they are not grievous. Even if you happen to be married to a man whose level of understanding is lower than yours, remember Abigail. Through her wisdom and understanding, she saved her home even though she had a foolish husband. The Bible says: Now the name of the man was Nabal; and the name of his wife Abigail: and she was a woman of good understanding, and of a beautiful countenance: but the man was churlish and evil in his doings; and he was of the house of Caleb (1 Samuel 25:3).
Identify your husband’s weaknesses, and help him to work on them. Learn to appreciate his strengths and point out his errors in love. This is God’s wisdom! Embrace it! If you abide by God’s instruction, it will make your home precious before God and before men. Read carefully the testimony of a sister who wisely applied God’s Word as she was taught and obtained a positive result.
“I’ve been married for over 12 years now and what I’m enjoying now, I’ve never enjoyed since I got married. Our mother in the Lord preached and laid emphasis on wives being submissive to their husbands in everything, just like the church submits to Christ. She also said we were to be submissive in everything. I didn’t realise that I wasn’t totally submissive.
I wept so much in church that day and went to the Lord saying, ‘Lord, from this day, I know that obedience is the key.’ And ever since, I’ve been enjoying what all my fasting and binding couldn’t deliver to me. I had done so many things to get my husband to love me—fasted, bound, loose—but I thank God that now it’s like I’m wedded anew. Not quite long, to confirm God’s faithfulness in my home, my husband gave me a cheque of one hundred thousand naira, which I have cashed. I now enjoy peace, love and harmony. The Lord has turned around the tides, just through my obedience to the Word. Praise God!”
When you embrace God’s wisdom, your home begins to shine as gold. People cannot help but be attracted to you, just as the glitter of gold attracts people. The Bible says: Who is as the wise man? and who knoweth the interpretation of a thing? A man’s wisdom maketh his face to shine (Ecclesiastes 8:1). I see you shinning more and more in your family life and in all your endeavours in Jesus’ name!
Applying God’s wisdom in your marriage as stated in His Word helps you to know how to speak positive and edifying words to your spouse and relate with your in-laws in genuine love. Wisdom is therefore, the principal thing in marriage. A wise woman will always know when and where to present matters before her husband.
There is a due season for every word, you don’t just open your mouth any how to speak to your husband, you must locate a proper time. As it is written: She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness (Proverbs 31:26).
However, you must understand that the wisdom that builds a home can only come by surrendering your life to Christ. If you are reading this article and you are not born again, you need to do so today.
You should say this prayer in faith:
Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for delivering me from sin and satan to serve the living God and thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.
Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are now born again and a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).
With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ Name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through firstname.lastname@example.org, 07026385437 OR 08141320204.
For more insight, these books authored by me are available at the Dominion Bookstores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian bookstores: Marriage Covenant, Making Marriage Work, Building A Successful Home and Success in Marriage (Co-Authored).