How To Spice Up Your Marriage By Giving Action To Your Love

how to spice up your marriage after 20 years

By Faith Oyedepo

Hello Reader, you are welcome to another exciting edition of this month’s teaching series. From all we have learnt since the month began, I believe you have been expressing your love to your spouse and other family members practically. Expressing love to others is one practical way of showing that you obey God’s Word. God designed marriage and family for love, joy, peace, pleasure and prosperity.

Lack of love is responsible for most of the crises in the home. Love is a vital key that unlocks all other blessings of marriage. In other words, when love is given expression in the home, there will be joy, peace, fruitfulness, progress, etc.

As I have said time and again, love is not love until it is expressed. For Husbands, love is essential for effective leadership. Without it, those who are being led may eventually refuse to follow and choose to go their own ways. Jesus Christ heads the Church with the rod of love. Likewise, every husband will need the same rod of love to get the effective followership of his family members.

However, the important issue that will be addressed in today’s article is: Love by Action.

Someone rightly said, “Action speaks louder than words.” There’s a place for words, but there is also a place for action. Lending a helping hand, being available, all make a lot of difference in relationships. They are ways of saying, “I care.” Someone once said that it can be quite frustrating for a woman to be engaged in housework, while the man just sits in front of the television enjoying a game of football and from time to time turnaround to say to the tired and worn-out woman, “I love you dear.” She knows you love her; at least you have said so. But take a step, help her by doing your fair share of household chores; it adds credence to your words!

Here is the testimony of a brother who put this wisdom to use:

“When the Bishop’s wife taught us the course Family Life at the Bible school, one would have thought she had secretly conducted a research on me, because every aspect of the lecture was directed at me, positively or negatively! After the second day of course, I got home and saw that my wife had to carry 20 crates of soft drinks down the road, while she was at the same time getting dinner ready. Unknown to her, I packed all the crates into my car and took them there for her. When I got home behold my wife was at the door and seeing that I had packed all the crates down the road, she started singing and dancing! Children of God that was all the service I needed to have rendered in my family; and ever since, it’s been tranquility, joy and peace galore!” –David, D.

Ways to give Action to your Love

By Touching: Sometimes, a touch speaks just as much as words. It communicates,” I am with you.” It keeps the fire burning all the time. Husband and wife, study to be romantic. Couples are to be “ravished” by each other’s love! God’s Word says, “… Be thou ravished always with her love” (Proverbs 5:19). “Ravished” means transported by delight. It will work wonders in your family.

By Giving: God so love the world and gave His Son! If you claim to love, it must find expression in giving. A thoughtful little gift at the right time can work wonders! You must make it a point of duty to remember special days such as birthdays, anniversaries, special occasions, and share the joy of the moment by exchanging gifts. These were the things you did while courting, you should not let them slip by just because you are now married.

Husband, sometimes, your wife is down physically. Remember “love is medicine.” At such times, all you need to do is to show a little more love and she will be okay! Some kind words, a little physical touch, some kisses or a little gift from you will do the magic! You can use the time you would have spent at the doctor’s office to demonstrate your love to her and you won’t have to spend money on drugs.

I will never forget an experience I had some years back. I was down physically and my husband went out one of those days and came back with a little beautifully wrapped gift, which he personally presented to me, expressing his love for me. Could you believe that that little act of love from him brought me health and I never needed any medication? Many years have passed, but I still keep the gift. There is no woman who hates to be loved! Wives don’t take your husband for granted and say, “He knows I don’t earn money.” A kiss or a little gift from you will constantly go a long way to express your love for him.

This is a duty for both the man and the woman. There is a popular inscription in a lot of families (especially Christians) homes which says, “Christ is the Head of this home, the Unseen Guest at every meal, the Silent Listener to every conversation.” Christ must be allowed to be a living presence in your home and not just an inscription or painting.

Understand that, genuine salvation is not in Church attendance; it is one thing to be a member of a particular Church and it is another to be born again. Remember, as a man or woman, you need God to make your home what God designed it to be. Therefore, it is time for you to surrender to God, the builder of all things to help you build and practice the love of Christ in your home because by strength shall no man prevail.

Therefore, the love of God can only find expression through you, when you are a born-again child of God. Having a Christian home begins with accepting Jesus Christ as your Lord and Saviour. Peradventure, you are not born again and you want to accept Jesus as your Lord and personal Saviour; then, say this prayer in faith: Dear Lord Jesus Christ, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins and cleanse me with Your Blood. I accept You as my Lord and personal Saviour. Make me a child of God today. Thank You for delivering me from sin and satan to serve the living God and thank You for accepting me into Your Kingdom.

Congratulations! If you prayed this simple prayer of faith with me, you are now born again and a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God’s Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).

With this, you are guaranteed all-round rest and peace in Jesus’ Name! Call or write to share your testimonies with me through [email protected], 07026385437 OR 08141320204.

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