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My Fiance Walked Out On Me After He Caught Me With My Ex Boyfriend – I’m In A Dilemma Please Help

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My Fiance Walked Out On Me After He Caught Me With My Ex Boyfriend – I’m In A Dilemma Please Help

my fiance caught me with my ex boyfriend

By Gold Myne

My Fiance Walked Out On Me After He Caught Me With My Ex Boyfriend – I’m In A Dilemma Please Help

My name is Laura. It all started three years ago when I clocked 25. I got into a very serious relationship with a Man of 32 after having being single for eight months. We were very much in love and happy, but he wasn’t employed. He tried his hands on so many businesses but failed.

Then, my Father got a slot in a big company and I pleaded with him to give Ben (his name) the chance…after much pleading and persuasion, my father grudgingly agreed and Ben got a job with a large international firm. Ben’s gratitude knew no bounds, he was grateful and it showed in his attitude towards me.
He respected me more, cared for me more and loved me much more!
Ben was secured at last and I later got a good job too.

He asked me to be his wife four months ago and I said Yes.

Two days after my official engagement, I received a call from my ex boyfriend…I was shocked because I hadn’t spoken to him in a long time.
He begged to see me and after much persuasion, I agreed to see him. We fixed a date and agreed on a meeting point. On the set date, we met and I was glad that whatever chemistry existed between us before was dead.

“Laura, I need you back in my life” He said two minutes after I sat and I smiled, looked at him and told him to go to hell. Still he persisted.
However, I didn’t tell Ben about this latest development, even when He suspected I managed it as expertly as I could… I denied seeing him. I do not know why I did it.

One saturday, four weeks ago, I was alone in the house, tidying things and getting ready to go out when IK surprised me with an unannounced visit, I wasn’t just surprised, I was angry.

I lashed at him angrily but he calmly reached for me again, this time I let him and before I knew it, He was kissing me. I probably didn’t resist because I was trying to check his effect on me…Ben walked in, then walked out.

I haven’t seen Ben in four weeks.
Efforts to reach him failed.
Messages got no response.
Couldn’t reach him at home or at work.

IK proposed to me a week ago and although I said No, he left the ring.

I’m sad and confused. I want Ben…what do I do please?.



  1. Jibowu Idris

    August 7, 2018 at 7:59 PM

    u have messed up he can’t trust u anymore

  2. uzoma

    August 7, 2018 at 8:18 PM

    You have yourself to blame. The IK of a guy came back to you because he heard that your father is now a boss in a company and you have secured a job too. He is one of those lazy bums who want a woman who will look after them. He wanted you back for your money. You made a big mistake allowing him into your house in the first place and you should have told your fiancé. As one adage goes, “a path once travelled can be travelled again”. Once you have crossed a woman, she can be crossed again unless that woman is strong willed.

  3. Thomas

    August 7, 2018 at 9:25 PM

    Ben has all the right to walk out of you and never had anything to do with you. You were lucky that he didn’t kill you, cos your attitude is deadly. Why are u still fucking with your ex? Stop lying, if it was planned for you guys meet in a secret place at the first time, then for him to come to your house was also planned. And you knew why he was there, just to fuck his old pussy. Women, una dey wicked!!!

  4. Danti

    August 8, 2018 at 12:06 AM

    You’re still okay at this point, it is just a simple way the devil complicate issues for careless young folks. Call Ben and leave a brief summary of “the” event on his answering machine and don’t forget to use your sweetest voice. If you really love Ben, please give him time and make sure you get your love back. Usually, I don’t pity ladies stories,but yours met me well. Tell the ex fuck or fool to go and die because since he came back, he has brought you sadness. May you succeed in the process. Amen.

  5. Keep it real

    August 8, 2018 at 1:22 AM

    This is a clear case that most women doesn’t know what they want… you have Ben, Ben now have a good job, you Laura have a job too, Laura’s Father have a job also so there’s nothing lacking here whatsoever and then you Laura went on a KISSING competition or KISSING checkup with Ik..
    I think you should start by telling your Father what you did and how the Laura/Ik kissing went then give your father, Ben’s phone number. I believe he can fixed your mess..

  6. Princess

    August 8, 2018 at 10:01 AM

    Some Women Can Be So Weak, Once Am Done With My Ex, Am Done Final. U Even Allow Him In And Start Kissing U And After Kisshng What Next? Girl Tell Urself Truth For Once. U Love Ur Ex Somuch That Evenif U Marry Ben U Will Cheat On Him. Please Have Self Control Girl

  7. Collins

    August 8, 2018 at 10:32 AM


  8. JABO

    August 8, 2018 at 12:19 PM

    But who is fooling who here? ‘IK proposed to me a week ago and although I said No, he left the ring.’ so, are still contemplating to say ‘YEs’ next? why don’t you throw the ring at him? You are not only a confused fool but a professional prostitute of easy virtue. You had better get lost and continue to be kissing here and there, and at any slightest opportunity spreading your legs wide opened for snake to crawl in. ASHAWO.

  9. Majid

    August 8, 2018 at 6:00 PM

    Even if Ben take you back, the problem is you have destroy the trust he had for. Relationship without trust is like driving a Car without break, which means the car can get accident at anytime.

  10. Ralph

    August 8, 2018 at 6:03 PM

    Conscience is an open wound.
    98% of ladies are so loose, no self control.
    He even kissed you, who knows what must have been on play when Ben came in since you can’t Control yourself.

  11. Sonia

    August 9, 2018 at 5:49 AM

    I understand how you feel, I once had an ex like that, once he notices am in a happy relationship, he comes back sweet talking me, begging and before you know, my head don twist like say him dey use jazz. I call them “enemy of progress “. It took God’s grace for me to rebuke him. But you, C’mon, you fucked up big time. Your fiance has proposed to you already, you had your beautiful future ahead of you, yet you blew it like a mumu. I’ve been dating douche bags that’s why my ex still gets to me, not when I have a serious boyfriend who has even proposed to me. Wetin concern me and useless ex again kwanu!


    August 26, 2018 at 10:51 AM

    All u have to do is to tell him the truth and trust me he will believe u if he truly love u cos i have also been in a situation when i saw my girlfriend with her EX i go anry out of jealousness u no we men we get jealous to much, i told her i dont wanna see her again in my life cos she is cheating on me but as time was going she came to me with tears she explain everything and she promised me that it no ganna happen again i believed her cos i love her, so why i my saying all these go back to him and do the same i asure u he will surely forgive u

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