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My Girlfriend Is Sleeping With My Boyfriend, I’m Afraid To Confront Her… Please Help
By Gold Myne
When we hear or read stories of friends killing or maiming each other over silly things, well, I just experienced one of the things that cause it.
Although I am not the violent type and would not kill my friend, but I must say there are nights I pray she would sleep and pass on!
My name is Ada, I live with my friend in Lagos, I had problems with accommodation and she took me in.
I met a guy when I moved in with her and we started a relationship that I thought was beautiful until I knew better.It happened that I was in a relationship before moving to Ify’s place but something happened and that relationship ended so I gladly accepted to be Niyi’s girl….an error.
I was always gushing about Niyi to my friend Ify so much that she requested an introduction which I gladly made happen.
In my presence, she got Niyi’s number, laughing that he would answer to her if he hurts me! I laughed, Niyi laughed, alas, we were laughing at my folly.
That was how they started dating. I saw all the texts, the calls. Now she calls him in my presence and only refrains from using his name.
I still can’t understand how someone I look up to, call sister and friend could do that to me! For crying out loud, Ify has a guy in her life but still took mine… The thing is I have no where to go right now, I have no one here and no money to get a place of my own. I know Niyi wasn’t mine, if he was we would not be talking about this.
I want to confront Ify and let her know I know already, but I’m scared because I have nowhere to go and my career is only just taking shape. But this silence is killing me!
Who was ever in my shoes? How did you handle the two betrayers? I need help before I do something that will end me up in jail.
Thank you.
G Dike
June 12, 2018 at 1:53 PM
U better leave her place before you commit murder
james
June 12, 2018 at 2:50 PM
Just call the guy and tell him that u can’t continue with him,simple…don’t tell him your reasons and concentrate on your career..leave your friend out of it even if she ask why u are not dating the so called Niyi,tell her that u don’t just want to continue.
Ogbe martina
June 12, 2018 at 3:19 PM
Brilliant reply
Danti
June 12, 2018 at 3:39 PM
Based on my Nollywood experience,don’t fight either party. I want you to dump the guy; anytime you see him don’t say a word and quickly get yourself together and get the hell out of that snake hole you found yourself. This your friend fit use you for juju if need be and a quiet Turkey like you should stay away from snakes.
Jilo
June 12, 2018 at 7:47 PM
Ada, I quite understand your plight and your accommodation problem but let me offer you a brotherly advise that I can offer my own sister. First thing first, you need to start preparing yourself from moving out of that place because it is dangerous for you. You may decide to handle the situation maturely but your friend may have sinister motive and decide to eliminate you. If your friend can snatch your fiancée, she can kill you. It is very dangerous for you living under the same roof with her.
Try to make friends at your new work place and see if someone can accommodate you temporarily before you secure your own place. Again, stop thinking that if your friend cannot assist you, nobody can help you. Do not put your life at the hands human being. You never know what God has in stock for you. I never knew anybody when I left Nigeria for western world but today I can accommodate some people. Do not give up, keep trying, ask people from your church who can give you temporary accommodation. I believe you will make some break through. Ada! please move on with your life and never accept that guy back in your life period.
Akpabio Hannah laughter
June 12, 2018 at 9:07 PM
fear people…even the closets to you…
Greta Nicholls
June 13, 2018 at 3:46 PM
I agree with James above, break it off with your so called boyfriend, say nothing to no one and find a little apartment of your own that you can afford on your salary. Then move out of that lady’s home, she is not a friend. learn from this mistake & trust no woman again. This happened to me once but my then boyfriend now husband told me. Beware of wolf in sheep clothing, good luck in all that you do and may God bless you.
WHATEVER
June 15, 2018 at 3:29 PM
IF SIBBLINS CAN HATE AND HURT EACH OTHER BC OF A MAN, A SO CALLED FRIEND CAN EASLY KILL YOU WITH NO REMORSE, PLEASE TRADE CAREFULLY AND MOVE OUT OF HER HOUSE ASAP