P-Square’ Peter Okoye’s Girlfriend, Lola Omotayo Explains Why They’re Not Married

June 3rd, 2013 – Peter Okoye’s Girlfriend, Lola Omotayo Explains Why They’re Not Married

Years after having two beautiful kids for Peter Okoye, one of the twin brothers of music duo, P-Square, Lola Omotayo, his wealthy girlfriend, baby mama is speaking up for the very first time.

In this recent interview on PM news, Lola revealed why she is not yet married to baby father. She said she is not in a hurry to get married among other issues.

Interview excerpts below

Many people got to know you when your relationship with Peter Okoye started. Who really is Lola Omotayo?

Simply  put, what you see is what you get. I can’t really define who I am per  se, but I’m humble, caring, loving and a professional in the oil and gas  profession. I take my work and family very seriously because they are  very important to me, my family in particular.

Your heartthrob, Peter is quite successful, but you seem not to depend on his wealth. What’s your driving force?

I  believe that as a lady, you have to support your partner. You can’t put  everything on your partner; it is important to add value as well. Even  though I’m not bringing as much as he brings to the table, at least, I’m  adding value and making things a lot easier.
Honestly, that’s the  way I was brought up; I can’t rely on someone for everything. I have to  be independent. I should be able to buy something for my kids without  asking their father for money. I feel good as a person knowing that I  can do things for myself, not that I want to feel above him in anyway,  but I just feel it is important for me to add some value to his life as  much as he adds to mine.

What advice do you have for Nigerian ladies who put all their financial burdens on their partner?

I  think that is the core of our problems in this society because we put  so much pressure on the man to take care of us, pay our bills…we put so  much pressure on them, and that tempts some men to start doing some  shady businesses. Women put too much pressure on men in this part of the  world.
Also, a lot of women are greedy and lazy, so they just  want to get married and stop working. It doesn’t mean women should go  all out and work for the men, but somehow, you just have to make things  easy for him. I see a lot of young ladies out there; it is not as if  there are no jobs for them to do, the problem is that they don’t want to  do certain type of jobs, they want everything to come easy.

I  started the very hard way, I didn’t start the easy way like people  assume. I had to work myself up there because I had a vision. A lot of  young ladies in Nigeria see people driving fancy cars; carrying fancy  bags and assume that a man is supposed to do all of that for them, so  they sell themselves in order to get it. But you don’t have to do that.

You can always find ways to make money legally.

Assuming you  didn’t come from a wealthy family, how would you have coped, considering  the tight economic situation of the country?

I think it is  still about family values. I came from a humble background; I didn’t  come from a very rich background. My parents worked really hard and I  saw the care that they took to ensure that they instil the best on their  kids, so I drew my strength from there.

You have to fight for  whatever you want; if it is education that will take you there, then,  you have to go to school and ensure that you get the needed degree. And  if you are creative, you can do other things, may be design clothes and  all that.

It doesn’t have to be a big job. Dangote didn’t start  with millions of dollars, so you have to be focused and work on it  gradually to get to where you are going. In fact, coming from a  privileged background is difficult because it won’t make you enjoy how  life really is. For me, my father really threw me to the dogs; he wanted  me to see how life was.

He could have enrolled me to some fancy  schools when I was growing up, but he wanted me to see how life is. He  made me rub shoulders with people who had nothing. I have friends who  came from rich background and today, they have nothing. I also have  friends who came from poor homes and today they are doing well. It is  about values and hard work.

Ironically, some Nigeria men don’t like ladies who don’t depend on them. How has that been between you and Peter?

I love Peter because he was never intimidated. When I met him, he was just trying to build himself and I was very proud of him. I have a lot of respect for him, his talent and I saw that he had a vision. Peter doesn’t get intimidated by anything; in fact, he supports and encourages me all the time. I think he’s happy that he doesn’t have to do everything; he can rely on me that I will take care of our kids.

What actually attracted you to Peter?

Peter has drive. He has vision and pursues it. He doesn’t let anybody distract him from that vision and that I saw in him, which a lot of people didn’t see. Some people were like, ‘what are you doing with a musician? Are you crazy?’ but I saw something very different and unique about Peter.

I saw the goals he set for himself and how he accomplished those goals step by step, and I was very impressed with that. I also saw that he wasn’t a selfish person.
He was a generous person from the outset, even though he didn’t have much then, he was always generous. I like a man who is generous, not for the financial reason, but also to see how he can add value to other people’s lives; that is very important to me. He is also a good listener; he listens to people, listens to me…those are the things that attracted me to Peter. He’s an amazing guy.

How romantic is he?
Peter is very romantic as well. He does things that an average Nigerian guy will not do. There was a Valentine’s Day that he came to my house with a guitar and played some love ballads for me. That was really cool and I loved it. Those are the little things that he does that really touched me.

How challenging is it to date a celebrity?

Having a relationship with a musician is one of the most challenging situations to be in. There are things you have to deal with; a lot of women, intruders, fans. You have to appreciate and respect the fans, but you also have some of them who are thinking of other things. I think it’s one of the most challenging relationships one can have.

You won’t even spend much time with your partner because he’s on the road most of the time doing shows and concerts; even during holidays like Christmas, Easter and New Year, they are not around. So I’m not really enjoying that part. But I thank God that we are managing it very well.

[Interview culled from PM news]