“I Want To Go Back To My Husband In Sambisa Forest” – Christian Girl Forced To Marry Boko Haram Commander Laments

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April 17, 2016 – Christian Girl Married Off To Boko Haram Commander Cries As Snake Kills Her Baby, Wants To Return To Husband In Sambisa Forest

“I Want To Go Back To My Husband In Sambisa Forest” – Christian Girl Forced To Marry  Boko Haram Commander Laments

A teenager identified as Zara who was abducted by Boko Haram but was later rescued by the Nigerian Army has expressed her willingness to join the terror group because of the stigma she is now experiencing after she was reunited with her family.

This is just as Ahmad Salkida, a journalist known to have unfettered access to Boko Haram, said that the government’s decision to close down the Chibok school was a sign of victory for the terror group since their plan was to discourage western education.

However, the story of Zara (not real name), who is a 17-year-old girl, is one among the myriad of young girls, whose lives have been “cut short” by the invasion of the sect in various communities in the North-East.

Recounting her ordeal in an interview with the British Broadcasting Corporation (BBC), Zara said she was kidnapped by the Boko Haram and then freed by the army, a development that had made her sometimes wishing she were back in the forest (Sambisa) rather than suffering the stigma as a Boko Haram “bride”.

Though unconfirmed if she was one of the missing Chibok schoolgirls, Zara said until now she didn’t have her own social media hashtag, but like thousands of others – free or still captive – she is deeply traumatised.

In telling #ZarasStory, being the first time she was speaking to outsiders about her “terrible experience” a year on, and the pain she still suffers to this day, Zara said: “They gave us a choice – to be married, or to be a slave. I decided to marry.

One of the militants had once told her: “You are only coming to school for prostitution. Boko (Western education) is Haram (forbidden) so what are you doing in school?” But as she continued in her narration, there was so much confusion in her face and in her answers even though she claimed not being a killer, but just a child. Continuing, Zara said: “The feeling for the forest is strong now, but it will go away.

I will forget the time with Boko Haram, but not yet.” She said she was in love with her husband although she believes she had been brainwashed, a development which made her feel abandoned by her faminily and stigmatised by her community.

While she lamented the precarious state in which she had found herself, it became so obvious that there was little or no difference in her story, except for the fact that child she was soon to bear a child. Collaborating her story, her uncle, Mohamed Umaru, said: “Life was tough and dangerous.

The air force jets bombarded the vast Sambisa Forest where the militants have their camps and from where soldiers rescued her and eventually returned her to her relatives. “The women in our family realised she was three months pregnant. In our family it happens that some of us are Christians and some are Muslims.

She was a Christian before she was kidnapped but the Boko Haram who married her turned her into a Muslim.” On whether to give birth to the unborn baby or not, Umaru said there was a split in the family over what to do and they took a vote as to whether she should abort or keep the child. The majority prevailed and she gave birth to a boy.

“She said her husband’s father is called Usman, so that is how she named the child,” Mohamed said. Immediately “Usman” was born, according to him, the insults began. “People call me a Boko Haram wife and called me a criminal. They didn’t want me near.

They didn’t like me,” Zara said as a tear slowly slipped down her cheek. She now sits inside the small walled compound around her house, afraid to go outside because of the cruel insults of the neighbourhood children – messages of hate learned from their parents.

“They didn’t like my child. When he fell sick nobody would look after him,” she said. To justify this fact, Zara said last weekend, as she slept outside with “Usman” who was just nine months old because of the heat, a snake got into their compound and the boy was killed. She stated that half of the family celebrated what they called God’s will.

“Some were happy that he died. They were happy the blood of Boko Haram had gone from the family,” Zara said. “They said thank God that the kid is dead, that God has answered their prayers. Sometimes she says she wants to go to school and become a doctor and help society, but sometimes, when people insult her, she says she wants to go back to the Sambisa Forest.

“She always talks about her husband who happens to be a Boko Haram commander. She says the guy is nice to her and that he wants to start a new life with her,” Mohamed explained.

Listening to Zara’s story, told quietly with eyes flicking down at the ground, it is hard to imagine anyone going through what she has gone though, let alone a 17-year-old girl.

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20 thoughts on ““I Want To Go Back To My Husband In Sambisa Forest” – Christian Girl Forced To Marry Boko Haram Commander Laments

  1. Sorry dumbie if you go to Sambisa now it is as empty as the road on a rainy day.
    forget about him and move on. It is too late to cry

    • @ Loveth, pls read the story very very well again, and dunt just comment wat u dunt no,dunt blame the girl. Dunt just read headlines, read the main story and see the reasons whay the girl said she wants to go.

  2. The parents should have relocated her to some entirely new environment, possibly down south or the middle belt. Stigma is so psychological that it blocks off every other reasonable thing and suggests harmful solutions to its victim. Who knows if she had wanted to take her own life sometimes?

    This is what stigma could do. Most times, the best way to tackle this problem is not just to locate a counsellor: a change of environment goes a long way in wiping that horrible experience from the victims memory. I do not believe she realy meant to reunite with that Boko Haram devil. It is just frustration.

    That is why they say we should show love to such victims. But the world is so hypocritical that the only people who can show her that love are those who are oblivious of her tainted past.

  3. The parents should have relocated her to some entirely new environment, possibly down south or the middle belt. Stigma is so psychological that it blocks off every other reasonable thing and suggests harmful solutions to its victim. Who knows if she had wanted to take her own life sometimes?

    This is what stigma could do. Most times, the best way to tackle this problem is not just to locate a counsellor: a change of environment goes a long way in wiping that horrible experience from the victims memory. I do not believe she realy meant to reunite with that Boko Haram devil. It is just frustration.

    That is why they say we should show love to such victims. But the world is so hypocritical that the only people who can show her that love are those who are oblivious of her tainted past.

  4. i so much feel her pain..se hw d life and dream of dis young girl has been shattered..

    d only thing she need now z total love and care.. she didn’t brought wot happened upon herself so why should d society add more salt 2 d injury for her.

    i think d human right activitist should lay upon a standard warning against anyone dat bridge d peace and hapines of dis young girl, let him or she face d damn consequences

  5. Hmmm, good radiance to bad rubbish. Pick your life and start allover again. Never think of going back to sambisa forest. I feel your pains.

  6. she have totally brainwashed,people should not go against her because she knows nothing, she need a better rehabilitation to continue her life.

  7. HER STORY IS TOUCHING BUT AT THE SAME TIME, PEOPLE FROM THE N/E SHOULD BE ENLIGHTEN NOT TO STIGMATIZE ANYONE FREED FROM BH CAPTIVITY

  8. I suggest she travel to a place where nobody knows her and find help from a good family she will be living with and helping in their home since the community and family she comes from are reminding her of her past.

  9. I suggest she travel to a place where nobody knows her and find help from a good family she will be living with and helping in their home since the community and family she comes from are reminding her of her past.

  10. Its a pity that Zara was surrounded by some bunch of stupid goats, who now sees her as an epidemic among them knowing too well that what happened to her was no choice of hers.

    She did not chose to be abducted, it could happen to anyone. In fact, if she had her way back then, she would have called down fire from Heaven to consume those agents of lucifer, the boko harams creatures.

    People really need the orientation that boko haram victims should be pitied, cared for, treated kindly, loved bcos they did not chose to be victims. It just an unfortunate bitter experience that happen to come upon their lives. And at such, should not be blamed or stigmatised for it.

    Now that the child is dead, the family really need to embrace her with all the love they can muster instead of making her feels miserable, unwanted, like an outcast, like a black sheep of the family.

    If this girl or any other person in similar position is not cared for could lead them to commit suicide just to end it all.
    Do they know the sort of cruety and wickedness they went through in the hands of those dare devils before they were fortunately rescued?
    We need to change our attitudes towards these victims be it BH, kidnappers, ritual killers.

    My strolling continues…

  11. All she needed is love and care that will make her forget she was ever at sambisa forest not hatred and neglect

  12. At times I don’t really understand with what is wrong with our people. This young girl was kidnapped under duress, she was raped against her wish, impregnated by stupid Boko Haram commander. She was later rescued along side her friends by the Nigeria Army and all her people could do to welcome her is to banish her from the society. It is a big surprise to me that her people could think like that. What else do you think that underage girl could have done differently to avert the situation she found herself. The way some people think is non meaningful. Why are you people crying out to the authority to bring back our girls that you want them to be freed from BH den?. You should have taught about that not to make a request to the government that you prefer them to be kept at Sambisa forest. Evidently, you cannot expect any of those teenagers to come back the way they left from the first day. After experiencing bad ordeal in the hands of Boko Haram, I expect their community to give them full support by welcoming them back and start working on how to integrate them back into the society. The state government should have come up with a program to help the victims of Boko Haram. It is so sad to let this girl feel like going back to Sambisa forest is the best option for her. If that girl is your daughter, your niece or your cousin would you send her back to BH just because she has once lived with BH. That does not make any sense. How do you feel that this girl now thinks that BH can treat her better than her own people? After all it is not her fault. It is a big surprise to discover how some people think.

  13. The mistake the girl’s parent did’why did they bring her back to that community instead of relocating her to another state to avoid hatred from people in the community.

  14. VOODOO IS WORKING ON YOU , YOU HAVE BEEN HYPNOTISE WITH EVIL VERSES IN THE BOOK. YOU HAVE ALSO EATEN ALL THOSE CHARMS WITH THEM,

    SO, YOU JUST HAVE TO CRY FOR WHERE YOU BELONG TO NOW, BECAUSE OF THE SECRET OATH WITH YOUR CULTIST HARDCORE LOVER .

    YOU WILL BE ALRIGHT IF YOU ARE ABLE TO VOMIT ALL THOSE COWRIES IN YOU , THE CHARMS WAS SO POWERFUL , IT WILL NOT LET YOU SLEEP.

    YOU BETTER GO AND SEE TB JOSHUA TO DELIVER YOU , AND WILL VOMIT ALL THE CHARMS IN YOUR BODY. YOU HAVE THIRTY TWO COWRIES IN YOUR BODY . PLEASE GO TO TB JOSHUA.

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