March 3, 2012 – Top 10 Best Relationships Ideas
Flings are allowed as long as they make you feel young, adventurous and free-spirited. But when you begin to crave for the real deal with your casual partner and you’re not certain how he feels, you have to take these steps.
Don’t rush things
Scaring him off is the last thing you want to do, so before you go asking if he wants to have dinner with you and your parents, think about more subtle ways of showing him you’re interested in more than just a friendly fling. Be careful here because putting him on the spot or making him feel like he has been backed into a corner he doesn’t feel comfortable in may just send him running the other way.
Don’t rush yourself too
The best thing you can do for yourself is not to get too into your own head space and obsess about what the other person is thinking before you have a chance to ask her. Don’t rush! Take quiet time to sit down and assess if it’s the person you’re interested in or if it’s just the way the fling makes you feel.
Watch your questions
Do not ask your fling questions like, ‘Where is this going?’You can push him away or make him feel pressured into a relationship.
Let him know you enjoy his company
Tell your fling that you enjoy spending time with him. Ask him he if wants to continue seeing you. If the answer is yes, then you have the groundwork for a conversation about your relationship. But, if he doesn’t bring up your future right away, don’t push it. Let it be enough, at least he admits to feelings for you when you first met.
Continue to do the things you enjoy while you and your fling are starting to see each other more regularly.
Where is sex?
Keep the sex fresh, fun and varied. Part of the appeal of a fling is care-free sex. So, get to know what your fling likes. If you haven’t already, then be willing to try new things. This will keep the fun, fling aspect of your relationship strong.
Don’t suffer fools gladly
* Don’t let a guy think that you’ll always be his doormat, come what may. Give him space instead of hovering around him all the time.
Keep it hot!
Keep the fling exciting because some men have the idea that short-term flings are fun, while long-term relationships are dull and boring and all about doing each other’s laundry. Prove to him that it doesn’t have to be that way.
Boost your bond
What do you really know about him? Chances are, if you’re still at the steamy hook-up stage where you know he has a nice body, what kind of cologne he favours and where he lives, that is not exactly the stuff of strong bonds. If you want to move from fling to the real deal, you’ll need to find out more about him – ask questions about his life, his goals, fears and desires and do some sharing of your own. The more you know about each other, the better your chances of forming deeper bonds will be.
Introduce him to friends
Slowly integrating him into your circle of friends is a great way to start making inroads when it comes to taking your hookup to the next level. It will be good for him to see another side of your personality, and if he’s comfortable with your friends, it may be a sign your fling has relationship potential.
Sometimes act like you don’t need him. Let him see from a distance that you’re thriving, confident and not clingy. He’ll soon start wondering what he needs to do to keep you.
Rather than try to talk your way into something more serious, just let it happen – and don’t be in such a hurry. Gradually spend more and more time together. Without pushing it, let him reach a stage where you’re the person he wants to talk to every night having let things evolve naturally.
Know what you want
Be honest about what you want from life, but in an indirect way avoid putting all the pressure on him. When you know what you want and aren’t afraid to show it, you won’t seem needy or clingy – you’ll just seem like a woman who knows her own mind.
Make him feel cool
Do not play too hard to get. The way to a guy’s heart is through making him feel great about himself. Tell him that he’s great company. Laugh at his jokes and compliment his music tastes. Keep up the momentum without sounding as though you want to trap him for years to come.
Don’t flog a dead horse
If you’ve been seeing a man for several weeks and he hasn’t introduced you to any of his friends, it’s a fair bet that he doesn’t want a long-term relationship with you.
Try to accept that he’s not in it for the long haul, and free yourself to meet a guy who is.