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God’s Will For Marriage Restoration After Divorce: Read This If You’re Trusting God To Restore Your Marriage
God’s Will For Marriage Restoration After Divorce: Read This If You’re Trusting God To Restore Your Marriage
There is no doubt that God’s perfect will for every marriage is for it to last till death. This underscores the sacredness of the marital vows taken once the marriage is contracted. This serves as a bond, a sort of chord that binds the couple (spiritually) till death parts them.
However, when issues arise and couples feel like their marriage is irreparable, they seek for a divorce. Seeking for one does not mean the vows have been severed. Therefore, in the eyes of the God, they are still man and wife.
The society in recent times seems very complacent on the issue of divorce and this has invariably led to its uninhibited increase.
This is in no way the plan of God for marriage. Even when couples divorce, it is still the will of God that they would still come together and have their marriage restored.
There are some scripture verses to back this up: 1 Corinthians 10: 11:
“and unto the married I command, yet not I but the Lord, let not the wife depart from her husband. But and if she departs, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband and let not the husband put away his wife. “
God desires every marriage to be restored to its original state and yes, this is possible. Bearing this in mind, the following steps should be applied by the willing couple (s):
Prayerfully Follow It Through: No restoration comes easy least of all, marriage restoration. It requires a great deal of prayer and commitment to see it through. Usually, after a marriage has been annulled, it takes some time (usually years) to get it right.
Leveraging on the efficacy of prayers, the couple who wish to have their marriage back must cry unto God in all seriousness.
Work on Past Experiences and Mistakes: Every marriage has its own ups and downs and one thing or the other must have caused the divorce. Work on your faults so that when reconciliation takes place, it would be for the best.
This part is of utmost importance because just as the Bible instructs, you cannot pour new wine into old bottles and vice-versa.
True Stories & Testimonies Of Marriage Restoration After Divorce
If you ever feel yourself sinking into despair, remember these testimonies as a boost to your spirit:
A lady in South Africa had been divorced for over six years. When she realized her mistakes, she began to pray for God’s restoration with her ex husband. It was not until another year and half that her ex husband, smitten by the Holy Spirit sought for a reunion. Today, they are married and even have a child in addition to the others.
Another instance is of a man in Western Nigeria who after a divorce had stayed for two years and was already contemplating a remarriage. During this period, his ex wife too had moved on and was with someone else. When he realized his mistakes, he sought for help from God and pray ceaselessly. He then tried reaching out to her but it was hopeless. She had already gone deep in her relationship with the new person.
This did not deter him but only intensified his resolve to win back his wife through prayers. His perseverance and tenacity finally paid off because things soon went sour in his ex wife’s relationship and in no time, they were back again as husband and wife.
There are lots of instances of people who through God’s intervention had their marriages restored. Therefore, when all hope is lost, turn to Him for guidance and he will see you through.
On your own part, there are certain pitfalls to avoid while waiting on God to restore your marriage. They include the following:
Avoid Negative Associations: These are people who would try to discourage you. They could be friends, family members and or colleagues. Their aim is to talk you out of the right path and may go as far as introducing you to their friends for dating and if possible, a remarriage.
Avoid Negative Mindset: You need to avoid a negative mindset at all times especially in this period. Do away with any negative emotions and guilds that may still be tugging at your heart. The moment you begin to nurse and accommodate negative thoughts, you have lost the fight.
Desperation: Desperation is a recipe for disaster. You must bear in mind that this would require a great deal of time and patience so desperation should have no place. Keep your cool and do not let your emotions get the better of you.
Involving the Children (if any): This is not the right time to use the children as a bait to have things your way. Do not get them involved in the process. Children ought to be shielded from such exposure.
Avoid Spreading the News: At this period people are likely to telling their friends or people around in order to solicit for advice. It is a good thing to share a problem. However, you must be very sure of the people you share this matter with.
Remember, some people may be happy with what happened and would only seek for ways to thwart your plans at reconciliation. It is always advised to speak to your spiritual leader and possibly one or two family members. The message: keep the people you tell as few as possible.
Above all, involve God in every step of the reconciliation process, and watch your marriage resuscitated.
Francesca Adjoa
October 5, 2018 at 5:15 AM
I have been at this stage before I know how bad it hurts. I pray for everyone in this situation to receive courage
Adebowale
October 6, 2018 at 12:10 AM
Amen, in Jesus name. I pray for God intervention over my marriage and restoration. I really love my wife and kids.
Cindy Brown
March 3, 2022 at 4:50 PM
I call on the mighty Name of Christ Jesus our Lord and Savior to restore and reconcile our marriage. I’m interceding for my husband crying to You our ALL mighty and powerful Most High Lord God that you empower Your gift of the Holy Spirit in him. Soften his heart, place forgiveness and love for me ALL in him ABBA. His heart is in Your hands Lord God, like the rivers of water turn it wherever You wish. Reconcile and restore our marriage Father for Your Names sake and glory. In Jesus’ name I pray reunite ALL couples that are standing firm steadfast for their marriage, their family and for love. Amen and Amen
Anonymous
October 5, 2018 at 5:24 AM
My problem is that my husband has changed his line, there is no way to contact him.
I wish God can touch his heart. am all alone taking care of 5 kids. The burden is too much
OBI EUGENE
October 5, 2018 at 7:37 AM
With God on your side all things are possible. Always pray for reunion for both….be humble enough to apologise and make good efforts to make things work again.
amy
October 5, 2018 at 10:06 AM
yes, GOD does restore. marriage, go to the website hope at last. God is leading you.
Carey York
June 5, 2023 at 4:05 PM
What if it’s one sided? We got divorced and back together right after and now he ended us agsin.I want my marriage back we have been together for 20 years, but he has moved on and I still live in the house with him for now. I’ve been praying daily for for restoration in our relationship but he has allowed someone else to divide once more. Will God answer my prayers if it’s one sided?
Biola
October 7, 2018 at 11:13 PM
I have been in a very abusive relationship,battered I stayed,thinking my man will change,but nope,I am scared for the unknown if I will ever be married again,what a fool I am happy it ends
Tina
April 10, 2022 at 1:28 PM
I am scared too- scared of my parents broken marriage, scared of my life- scared of all the men who did not love me back, when i say love i mean truly want me. I used to think i will be loved but life turned out so different. At least i have the kindness of strangers.
Lisa
January 23, 2021 at 7:47 AM
Not sure if anyone will see this but I can use prayer for restoration. Without getting into it, it is going to take a miracle.
Mark
April 15, 2021 at 4:15 AM
I know its going to take a miracle as is mine but God can do this if we trust Him. Its not going to be fun or fast but nothing is too hard for the Lord.
Mark
March 28, 2021 at 10:14 PM
I am in the process of reconciling with my ex-wife but she is bipolar and I have many more obstacles to go thru than most. This has been the most painful experience of my life because its like my heart keeps getting broken over and over again just seeing her. She is also asking me all the time for money because she is always broke and has now cost me $5000 dollars the last three months. Of course I don’t have any family members that are supportive in fact they are just the opposite and will do whatever they can to keep her out of my life. We were married 25 years and split for the last three. Right now it doesn’t feel like Im going to make it thru this. Im 58 and I just don’t have the strength like I used to. Still Im trusting God to help. I still love her with all my heart.
Tina
April 10, 2022 at 1:32 PM
Thats amazing how much you love her. Bless your heart. Can you tell me about a mans love for a woman? Can you tell me about God?-did he help you? Who is God? I know the bible. But who is the Father really i wonder. “The word became flesh” is God the word? How do we know ? Did Jesus live in heaven before he came to earth?
Jaime
June 25, 2022 at 11:17 PM
Been praying my husband stops his drinking his infidelity and seek out Christ to heal his soul, restore his heart to mine he has filed for divorce and claims the woman is only a friend yet she’s been attacking my marriage since last year when he committed adultery with her. She is vile having 3 men to toy with and one was my husband who was weak powerless due to his addictions. I pray God heals my heart from all the pain he caused and restores our marriage
Paul
April 24, 2023 at 5:30 PM
Sister, I’m praying and believing that God will restore my marriage and son after my wife divorced me. It’s been a heart wrenching year and still no contact nor do I even know where they are.
I can only advise you with what I have learned to be true. Keep praying and thank God for what He is doing. Trust Him and focus on God, not your husband. Work on yourself and prayerfully trust God to work in your husbands heart.
Father, please help this woman find your will and peace in this trial you have allowed in her life. Transform her and her husband to what you call beautiful. Perfect all things in her life. In Jesus name, amen!
Liz
April 27, 2023 at 3:24 PM
I hope my marriage will work again.i have tried reaching him the only unswer is”am married mind your own business”is it possible conciliation with him..we have two kids
NG
April 27, 2023 at 5:27 PM
Sorry to hear that. There is nothing God can’t do. Stay strong and be there for your kids and keep trusting God.
Thusnelde Kandjou
April 30, 2023 at 10:46 PM
I moved out due to marital problems now we r separated not yet divorced. My husband is angry and adamant that the marriage is over. I really love him and he loves me too. We have 10 children five are my biological which we are raising. I really pray and believe that God restore our marriage.
Sunshine
November 9, 2023 at 11:17 PM
I want to thank God for Jesus Christ my Lord and Savior. I am going through this situation currently and believing by faith God is going to restore my marriage after four years of divorce. Repent for getting the boys from my unbelieving husband, but I’m trusting God to give us a second chance and do this the right way and honor our vows that we made. God still sees us as husband and wife I pray that we walk is restored Husband and White with God as the head of it.