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Pastor Chris Okotie’s Divorce, An Instruction From God?

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Pastor Chris Okotie’s Divorce, An Instruction From God?

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Sept 18, 2012 – Pastor Chris Okotie’s Divorce, An Instruction From God ?

While many considered the whole divorce drama between Pastor Chris Okotie of Household of God and his wife (now ex), Stephanie Henshaw to be over, another twist has developed to the story in an interview a Pastor of Chris’ church had with City People magazine.

Rev. Grace Paul in the interview speak on a lot of issue and tries to provide full explanation of what transpired between the former lovers:

Interview Excerpts below:

Rev Grace Paul:

A blind person knows that my pastor loved his wife, Stephanie, passionately. This year before the separation, he had taken her out of the country at least three times to different places like Dubai, US and so on.

He loved her, so did the congregation but the bible says that two cannot walk together except they agree. In the establishment of the kingdom of God, the rules change because the rules are made by God and not by man. So, it didn’t have to do with what pastor wanted to do, because left to him, his love will keep him struggling and going at it but if God gives him instruction he has to follow it through.


If I get you correctly, it was Jesus instructions for Pastor Chris to part ways with Stephanie?

Rev Grace:

Let me give you a precedent. In the bible, there’s a queen called Queen Vershti of Persia. The king invited his wife and said – come woman, I want to show you off to my people and the woman had an attitude. She had pride issues. It was at that point she said to the king “Excuse me, I am making up, how can you be humiliating me by telling me to come and sit down so that people can be looking at me.”

So she refused and the people of the kingdom rose up against her, and they said the king must let her go, and that was how Esther came in. That is the principle of The Kingdom. In the two cases of my pastor’s former wives, it was an abdication of roles. One was a physical abdication, and the other was a spiritual abdication. In the matters of the Kingdom of God, when you abdicate your position, your position will be taken over, because the calling my pastor has, he is not called to work alone.


In Stephanie’s case, was it a case of spiritual or physical abdication?

Rev Grace:

Her case was spiritual abdication, but either ways it amounts to the same thing, because the scripture states clearly that if unbelieving departs, let him depart, you are not bound.


Any efforts to patch things up?

Rev Grace:

Spiritual things can not be patched up. When there are two people who are not the same kind, it is not a matter of patching up.


So is the congregation happy that the pastor is single again and is there any plans to replace Stephanie?

Rev Grace:

The congregation is not in the position to replace Stephanie. My pastor is a full grown man, and he knows what he’s doing. In the case of our pastor’s first wife, she insisted that where she wanted to do her church work was in the US. As for Stephanie, I cannot be intruding. As much as I am authorized to do what I am doing, I can’t disrespect my pastor and Stephanie. If I begin to give you some details, they would amount to disrespect. My pastor has insisted that they want to keep it private.


Pastor Chris once said that the instruction to marry Stephanie was from God

Rev Grace:

If you know my pastor, he is a passionate person. They had a long time relationship before they got married. My pastor is particularly careful about beautiful women because he knows that the devil desires them.

So when a beautiful woman has issues in church, he ministers to them, and because he does that, people jump to the conclusion that he sleeps with them, which is not true. Just like Queen Ure, pastor has never had an affair with her, will never have an affair with her because they are not of the same kind. Ure was pastoring her own church, until she became bored.



  1. Akinyemi Ayodeji Olalekan

    September 18, 2012 at 7:31 PM

    Here is what I deduced from the conversation: Before, Pastor Chris once said that the instruction to marry Stephanie was from God but now the same God has instructed him to leave her. Is he saying that God is contradicting Himself or making mistake? Who also instructed him to divorce the first wife, God too? Judgement day is real Ooº°˚˚°º

    • NJ

      September 10, 2014 at 8:37 AM

      odikwa egwu oh !!! God will be pretty busy on the judgement day.

  2. Dr David

    September 18, 2012 at 10:33 PM

    “I can guarantee that whoever divorces his wife his wife for any reason other than her unfaithfulness is committing adultery if he marries another woman.” {Matt. 19:9, Mark 10:11, Luke 16:18}

    Woman u beta don’t impute another man’s sin upon ur own head. God does not hv double standards.
    “Be not deceived, God is not mocked: for whatever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.” {Gal. 6:7}

    • Rita

      September 20, 2012 at 5:23 PM

      My brother you have said it all

  3. cherish

    September 18, 2012 at 11:48 PM

    Oga stop laying against God! Wats D̶̲̥̅̊is? It plain that he I̶̲̥̅̊S̤̥̈̊ confuz coz the God I serve don’t promote suck act that can lead to furnication… U̶̲̥̅̊ are furnicating jare!

  4. cherish

    September 18, 2012 at 11:52 PM

    Rev. Grace remember that,that same bible said for better for WORST!

  5. Nob

    September 19, 2012 at 3:25 AM

    If situation like diz arises 1st of most week seeks Gods hand 4 advice. Left 4 me i think problems at time can influence d Godly peopl.neva d less Pastor should wait d rightful persn

  6. Richest

    September 19, 2012 at 4:35 AM

    Pastor Chris is confused. Real men of God dont divorce the way he does. Then what advice does he have for the congregation about marriage? So once you cannot tolerate ur wife divorce is only solution one can attempt? Pls pastor pray very way for God to give d ability to tolerate ur wife. Go reconcile with ur wife. Live a life that people can emulate. Pls!

  7. fonny

    September 19, 2012 at 4:39 AM

    I dn’t like wat rev grace is saying so she’s in full support dat her pastor will see a beautiful lady and desires her and because he has money he will legalised it,and after sleeping wit her 2 his satisfaction,that’s when he understand dat she wasn’t God’s will,let us not b decieved God cannot be mocked. Wat about wat d bible talks about divorce,or that she’s d bone of ur bone and flesh of ur flesh,as a pastor he should know better.marymagdalene was possess but wen she became a friend of jesus,jesus delivered a church wai d pastor is divorce two times dat means divorce is d other of the day in dat church.pastors should lead by example pls

  8. Ade Oyewole

    September 19, 2012 at 6:22 AM

    Is this so called pastor is he in his right senses? Scripture says once a person is married or joined in holy matrimony, the only thing that can separates them is dead.
    Let us come to think of it, what counseling will he be given to people having problem with their marriage. Does it mean he will just ask them to divorce and go and remarry when scriptures go against it.
    The end time is near, that is why all these terrible things are happening. I pray for God’s intervention in the life of the pastor.

  9. Phlakes

    September 19, 2012 at 6:47 AM

    This mr. Chris okotie will soon see the wrath of God.

  10. Paragon

    September 19, 2012 at 8:15 AM

    Hw cn God ask u 2 divorce her,rember dsame God said man cn only divorce his wife if he caught her in bed with anoda man dat d only reason. 2. Rember in d bible hosea story despite all her wife was doing God til told him 2 cal ha back. Is ur own God different Dat ma question?

    • fenny

      September 19, 2012 at 7:27 PM


  11. ozoms

    September 19, 2012 at 10:28 AM

    This man has a big problem.I wonder why he easily claims that God directed him in most of his actions. l still recall his claims on God promising him he’d win the election and b president. This is quite disturbing.

  12. precious

    September 19, 2012 at 11:10 AM

    THAT pastor need a prayer and deliverance

  13. eze ezinne

    September 20, 2012 at 11:01 AM

    i do not tink dt man is a true man of GOD.bcos it wuz specifically written dt a man should cling to only one man.and christain are warn against divorce

  14. idongesit

    September 20, 2012 at 2:19 PM

    Rev okotie if u like fornicate with all the ladies in ur church both matied and single it is none of my business. U can even tell ur members to do same. But one thing is sure, we shall all give account of our selfs on d last day. Keep up.

  15. lucky

    September 20, 2012 at 7:27 PM

    let he that is named by the name of the Lord depart from Evil!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  16. Edikan Moses

    September 21, 2012 at 9:19 PM

    According to the interview,
    The first divorce was cos of PHYSICAL ABDICATION,
    Hmmm…… I’m convinced that the next culprit will be cos of MAGICAL ABDICATION.
    God Help Us….

  17. Azeez adeboye gain

    September 27, 2012 at 11:03 AM

    What kind of dis rubished,is nt gud 4 man of gud 2 divorce her wife according 2 what i hear 4rom bible nd quran it say’s 4gve ur wives no matter what happen btw u nd her,just 4gveness.dis is my advice 4 us

    • danABAF

      September 27, 2012 at 3:18 PM

      from wat i induxed i think rev. grace speaks 4 her self, do u tink chris is a real mann of God or im just dey use pastorship dey lure pple emter hell, repent for d kingdom ofGod is neigh ooo.

  18. Evang Stan-Otar

    October 15, 2012 at 4:08 PM

    ‘And it repented the LORD that HE made man on the earth, and it grieved HIM at HIS Heart’ And the LORD said, I will distroy man (whom I have created from the face of the earth; both man, beast, creatping things and fowls of the air’ for it repented me that I have made them. (Genesis 6:6-7)
    Grudge not one against another, brethren,lets ye be condemned:behold the JUDGE sTANDETH BEFORE THE DOOR.(James 5:9)
    There is always a reflection of anything done by God’s Creators. at teh appounted time, GOD will judge the world wheather You like it or not. Hear Eccl in (12:13-14) The whole duty of man is to fear GOD and keep His Comandment. For GOD shall bring every work into judgement WITH EVERY SECRET THING, Wheater good or bad. I don’t have any right to judge but I speak as a FLESH.

  19. only man

    February 10, 2013 at 6:13 AM

    Our so called pastors and their doctrine,remember,Gods judgement will start in his house. Pastor,remember dat lieing against God or holy spirit is d worst sin one can commit. I have spoken.

  20. obinna

    February 10, 2013 at 2:40 PM

    he is lyin where did he see God?they shouldnt be any divorce expect on fonication,and its started that the offended party could even forgive,who knws he’s probably avin an affair with the person that is xayin all this bullshit.O.m.g he’s even wanting 2 contest 4 presidency,when christ said we re no part of the World,he even withdrew wen they wanted 2 make him King….not 2 worry fellows they all gonna get their reward in Full.

  21. Weiz son nwa

    April 19, 2013 at 6:32 PM

    Dey are in relationship 4 long befor d marriage,a pastor dating a member,GOD instructed u 2 marry her now d same GOD instruct u 2 divorce her,2time’s divorces, wat is wrtin in revalation is comin 2 pass,many are called bt few are choosen

  22. mimi

    July 5, 2013 at 10:29 AM

    hummmmmmmmmm….with what is going on in our churches today,what then are we to preach to the unbelievers,How do we defend our christian faith ?.Men of God who oughtto be our mentors are the ones bringing shame to the household of God.May the lord have mercy on us.

  23. Dele Adegoroye

    February 1, 2019 at 8:50 AM

    The guy is not serious. Did God telephone him or sent him a letter.Most of the B/S that hustlers use is to go to church to look for rich women or better still start a hallelujah business which they call church and pick women one by one. This so called pastor has bodyguards who carry guns within the church. So the god that talks to him cannot protect him. He has just turned his 2nd wife into a fairly used second hand mercandise. How sad.

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