Most Igbo Men Marry Between Ages 30 & 35.. Why I Married Early – Nollywood Distributor Igwe Gabosky Okoye
By Benjamin Njoku
Marrying early has a lot of advantages. First, it enables a couple to start bearing children early and, second, you have the strength and ability to train those children. Third, and this is very important, the couple will have children that are grown up and well settled in life while they are still young. Nollywood distributor and producer, Igwe Gabosky Okoye, and his wife, Ify, is a case study. Gabosky married his wife at the age of 25 and their union is blessed with four kids, three girls and one boy. His first daughter, a medical doctor, who married, last year, just put to bed a bouncing baby boy, thus making Gabosky a grandfather while his second is currently undergoing her internship as a medical doctor in Abuja. The couple share the joy and the pain that comes with early marriage.
Life after childbirth.
I decided to marry early because I found myself in the entertainment industry, where we have a lot of beautiful ladies. I wasn’t looking bad. God created me as a handsome man. I said to myself I wouldn’t want to be rushed and finished by the beautiful ladies in the showbiz industry.
That was why I made up my mind to marry early. Normally, men of Igbo extraction marry between the ages of 30 and 35. But in my own case, I married at the age of 25. This is because I made money very early in life. And that’s why, oftentimes, people expect to see one old man called Gabosky.
I wasn’t distracted, rather I was focused. I started raising a family immediately after marriage. I am blessed with four children, one boy and three beautiful girls. And my wife and I are okay with that. When I married my wife, we were alone in the house, and when the kids arrived, it was a full house, six of us in the house. With the passage of time, they started leaving us one after the other to chase their dreams.
While this was happening, I told myself if she realized that only two of us are going to be in the house again. No wonder couples decide to make more children at old age purposely to have companion. I don’t want to toe that path.
But the truth is that we are alone in the house. Old people are always alone in the house. But due to early marriage which enabled us to have our kids on time, and see them through in their education, we are back to the beginning. It gives great joy that one is still young to see his children leaving the house because of marriage. If things are stabilized in this country, at this age what we should be doing is going on holiday abroad.
This is because we don’t have responsibilities any more. Unfortunately, things are not moving well in the country. But to God be the glory, we are happy and in good health after finishing training our children and seeing them grow into responsible adults, and becoming responsible parents like us. One of my daughters got married last year and she recently put to bed a bouncing baby boy.
That’s what I am saying.
Gains and pitfalls of early marriage.
There is great advantage in good health, seeing your children grow into adults and later become responsible parents. What you owe them is quality education and proper upbringing. Couples in their old age cannot impart any value into their children. On the other hand, it’s not a good thing to be alone in the house at a very young age when your children are all grown up and have left the house for you and your wife. You need to hire hands to help you run around as well as carry out some domestic works, otherwise you must up and doing every time.