Connect with us

Parenting Tips And Tricks

Effective Ways To Instill Discipline In Your Children

ways to discipline a child without hitting

Effective Ways To Instill Discipline In Your Children

By Adeyinka Akintunde

Pay Attention To Them

The most powerful tool for effective discipline is attention—to reinforce good behaviors and discourage others. Remember, all children want their parent’s attention.

Give Them Another Chance

Everybody deserves a second chance, right? If your child has shown a lack of respect in some way, give them the option of a “do-over.” Send them out of the room, and have them start all over again. It gives them practice in treating others well.

Use silence

Sometimes it is hurtful words or it could be a loudness that disturbs the peace. Taking away the privilege to talk for a certain amount of time will calm them down and give them time to think.

Give consequences

Calmly and firmly explain the consequences if they don’t behave. For example, tell her that if she does not pick up her toys, you will put them away for the rest of the day. Be prepared to follow through right away. Don’t give in by giving them back after a few minutes. But remember, never take away something your child truly needs, such as a meal.

Use the rod rarely

“Spare the rod, spoil the child.” We all know this ancient wisdom, but it must be used with caution. Don’t do it in anger. It can be tough at times, but always keep your composure. If need be, take a walk before engaging. Have them sit on their bed and wait. Sometimes the waiting is worse than the actual spanking.



  1. Goddie

    November 11, 2019 at 5:51 AM

    Hitting is a bad idea but occassionaly spanking is good for stubborn kids

  2. PTeeMoney

    November 11, 2019 at 11:16 AM

    The first point about giving attention is the key….

  3. Ruth

    November 12, 2019 at 3:31 PM

    This is a difficult topic. It is more easier to discipline a child in Africa than abroad. In Africa you have family members and people in the society that can discipline a child and talk to them. Yes I agree best is to give children the opportunity to reflect on their behaviour, love them to bits and let go of their mistakes as they are still learning.
    For most parents raising children abroad, some are lucky they can instill discipline in their children and for some, it is almost a struggle, due to the situation at home, peer pressure, social media, games and government social care policies. Saying this, there are various online support for parents on how to discipline their children. Best is to love them, try our best, correct them with love, as they would remember in future and who knows, when we ourselves get older and not capable of doing things ourselves, we may need them.

  4. Mon

    November 15, 2019 at 6:41 AM

    Great Tips, most times our harshness to children is a kind of transfer aggression, once you mellow down, you’ll still realize that a child will always be a child, they are just trying to understand.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

More in Parenting Tips And Tricks


Advertise On

Advertise on


To Top