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How Do I Stop Loving Her? – Heartbroken Guy Cries As Girlfriend Returns To Ex-Boyfriend
How Do I Stop Loving Her? – Heartbroken Guy Cries As Girlfriend Returns To Ex-Boyfriend
I met this really exceptional lady 18 months ago.
As at then, her boyfriend just broke up with her. According to her, she gave him her all including her virginity.
We got along so well, and I assisted her in forgetting him gradually or so I thought.
We became friends and gradually the bond grew stronger. We told each other anything and did everything together.
Feelings and emotions came to place and of course, I asked her out.
We started dating and she constantly reminds me not too love her too much, because she believes that she might hurt me.
She happens to mean so much to me and I have decided to love her with no condition.
Although, I am way older than her, she is a very young lady who believes that her dreams are major priority for her.
She was so scared of commitment but I assured her that I am willing to stay no matter how long it would take.
We have been fine and relationship has been smooth until recently, she became all aggressive and secretive.
She avoided receiving calls in my presence and went as far as securing her phones.
I got so worried and tried all I could to make her talk. I apologized to her in case I had done something I wasn’t conscious of.
She was still moody, refused to pick my calls and asked me to stay away from her.
I kept pushing hard, trying every means to reach her until finally she gave me a chance to talk to her.
She told me that her ex is back and that her love for him is still sincere.
She said that she already accepted him back and that I should please, forget about her.
My feelings for her hasn’t changed a bit, before she accepted me, she told me how she had been trying to maintain balance in her previous relationship.
She complained about how she was the only one showing all the love and care. She said the guy never created time for her and even goes as far as avoiding her calls.
She told me how non challant the guy could be and how he makes her cry often.
Now, she has decided to go back to that cage. At this point, I am so confused.
I really don’t know what to do or say. I love her and I don’t want to lose her.
Was it a mistake to have loved someone who recently had heartbreak?
Was I wrong to have loved her with all of my heart and mind?
How do I tell her that the guy is no good for her?
How do I make her realize that she deserves better? Much more better in fact?
How do I sleep knowing that she is not happy?
How do I make myself unlove her?”
Daniel Nwobi
July 10, 2018 at 5:30 PM
You better move on before you kill yourself. Dis guy doesn’t love you .
Love should be reciprocal. I think u forced yourself on her.
Amanda
July 10, 2018 at 8:07 PM
Move on man. She already hinted you but you didnt see her red flag. Did you read where you said that she told you not to love her too much because you might get hurt?. Her heart was elsewhere not with you. She used you for emotional safety net and now you paid the price.
Move on with your life and watch her from afar. She may crawl back to you if their relationship hit the rock. Young girls tend to have lots of drama. Stay the heck away from drama queen. For the fact that you are older, she will use you for $$$ and damage you emotionally.
Move on. Distract yourself from her by doing somethign else. Throw away all her belongings you shared, including her pictures or hide them where you not gonna easily remember. Block her number forever. Dont read or reply her text. delete it right away if her text comes in.
That been said, i am aware how difficult it is to let go of relationship especially if you have invested emotion into it. But try harder and mingle with other people. I am not asking you to start drinking. Just distract yourself. She is probably dating a fuck boy who’s gonna break up with her pretty soon. If she finally calls you from a different number, once you realize it is her, warn her to stay the fvck away from you. I am telling you she will not come back to you for good but she will come back to use you. There are bunch of those idiots out there. She was never in love with you.
Love should be reciprocal. If it is not, it is time to call it off.
DB
July 11, 2018 at 10:03 AM
well said
MARYF
July 11, 2018 at 1:55 AM
There’s nothing you will do in her case to make her see clearly, until her boyfriend dumps her again, which I am 100% sure will soon happen.
My advice to you is, move on or wait for her to be dumped again, this time with pregnancy or with a child from her boyfriend if you cannot do without her
Dev
July 11, 2018 at 7:52 AM
u need to move on with ur life.i know is difficult cos same thing happens to me last year.nothing u can do or say that ll bring her back just delete her number and pic from ur phone block any contact with her i promise u 2 weeks or 1 u will forget her