Relationships & Romance
Pastor Chris Oyakhilome: A Woman Is Under A Man In A Relationship,Your Husband Is Your Master
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September 9, 2016 – Pastor Chris Oyakhilome: A Woman Is Under A Man In A Relationship, Husbands Are Masters Of Their Wives
Critics have come after Believers Love World founder, Pastor Chris Oyakhilome after an excerpts of one of his sermons made it to the social media.
The message posted on Christ Embassy’s Missons FB page is now sparking outrage online after the man of God claimed that a woman is under a man in a relationship because the husband is the master according to the bible.
See the sermon’s excerpt below
This is not the first time Pastor Chris will come under fire, he once claimed that Masturbation is not a sin.
Do you agree with Pastor’s Chris’s view in the above message?
Steve Onuh
September 9, 2016 at 1:44 AM
True talk all the way
Shol Lly
September 9, 2016 at 6:58 AM
The Bible also says husbands love your wife as Christmas loves the church. Love commands submission. The Husbands has more responsibility of love towards the wife because while we were still sinners Christ died for us. Meaning even if your wife is difficult you must still love her. The man as the head of the home must play his role first and continuosly regardless of what the wife is like because it’s aso Christ loves us.
ttt
September 9, 2016 at 7:53 AM
This is undiluted truth I read here but at the same time reciprocate what she give you for the family to work if she is humble
betty
September 9, 2016 at 7:53 AM
on this topic he is right but it is good to practice what u preach.
fifelomo
September 9, 2016 at 9:34 AM
Educative. He’s right.
EJO
September 9, 2016 at 10:00 AM
@SHOL. REMEMBER THE SPEAKER NEVER FIRED FOR DIVORCE……
@BETTY WHO TOLD YOU HE DOES NOT PRACTICE IT,HOW COME HE HAS PASTORS WHO HAS WORKED FOR HIM FOR YEARS NOW WITHOUT SEPERATION…..IF IT IS EASY THEN LEAD ONLY TEN PEOPLE AND SEE WHAT IT IS OR DONT YOU KNOW IT IS EASIER TO LEAD A WIFE THAN OTHER PEOPLE.
I AM NOT SUPPORTING HIM NOR HIS WIFE BECAUSE DIVORCE IS BAD BUT HE WHO THINKS CAN HANDLE MARRIAGE BETTER SHOULD GO AHEAD WITH HIS OR HER OWN……LEAVE PASTOR CHRIS ALONE
Maryf
September 9, 2016 at 10:55 AM
Nice saying
EJO
September 9, 2016 at 10:58 AM
why naijagist
Metu Nyetu
September 9, 2016 at 12:30 PM
WHOEVER ATTACKS this pastor for speaking the undiluted word of God is to be seriously avoided. That is why I tend to scorn feminism. I am not a chauvinist, neither a misogynist. But I perceive that at the core of the whole activism is rebellion against God. Women hate where God has placed them—below the man. It is not bad that the society is made comfortable and level for all players, both the man and the woman. What is bad, evil, and rebellious is the subterfuge, fighting another thing—their curse at Eden—while projecting equal rights to the fore as the main agenda.
PASTOR, YOU SAID the truth as far as this is concerned. Let me leave your view on masturbation for another day.
Endure
September 9, 2016 at 12:32 PM
I see no reason why this man should come under fire for preaching what is insightful,authentic,full of gems of wisdom and scriptural.
This is a meticulous and well thought out sermon delivery by Chris. Why should any religiously inclined person reject this bible based fact? EPHISIAN 5:23 stated visibly that the head of every woman is the man just as christ is the head of the church.
However,the man should also acknowledge that being a wife doesn’t mean she can’t have a say in decision making in the family. But what Chris is here stressing is that,the husband whom God has given the crown of headship or leadership should always have the final say in any decision made in the family. That office of supremacy in the family should not be dragged or fight over by any housewife. While they also reserve the right to have a say in the decision making in the family,the wives should ensure they do that in a manner that shows deep respect and with a spirit of mildness not because the husband is the most important being but because God is the one that ordained it to be so. Even 1corrinthians 11:9 stated clearly that “a man is not made for woman but woman was made for man”. Anyone who has the time should check that portion of the bible. For this reason,wives ought to respect the role of the husband in the family as the head. There is no other “DEFFINATION” we can give to that.
Unfortunately because of the age of civilization,advancement in education where we all have equal right to attain the highest learning in life,many now have a shift in their thinking over who should be the leader in the family. But the right of the husband to be the leader of the household was ordained by God himself not man. And the woman is expected to be in subjection to the leadership of the husband,therefore,failure to subject yourself to your husband as a wife is tantamount to rebelling against the arrangement of God who is the Author of marriage.
However,where I found it at odd and strongly disagree with Chris Oyakhilome’s teachings is, his endorsement of MASTURBATION as not being sinful. Based on bible principles,masturbation is a sin before God. According to 2corrinthians 7:1 it says “let us purify ourselves from everything that contaminate the body and spirit thereby perfecting holiness out of reverence for God”. Now,going by not a law but by bible principle,every human is to refrain from whatever thing that could contaminate their holiness,body and spirit before God.
We should prove ourselves holy in all ramification. Our mental state which is one of the drive to masturbation,our eyes based on what we view on the screen and in every other aspect of our physical being,we have to show that we are morally chaste and clean without any physical defilement of flesh and spirit in whatever way it might come. So by bible principle and not by law,masturbation is sinful. The same bible principle also goes to
Smoking which is not directly ban in the bible but condemned indirectly.
So I don’t know why pastor Chris would tell the world that masturbation is not a sin. But aside from this,his teachings on marriage is excellent! A1.
Laura Kabaka
September 9, 2016 at 4:03 PM
Yes,that’s true and Biblically stated,but men have abused the word of God.you men have abused God’s infalliable word in many way,you men have abused and taking God for granted.You people preach and teach the word of God but don’t live by the word.Who’s fooling Who in this matter,and who’s the disbedient child then?
Jilo
September 9, 2016 at 4:38 PM
Point of correction @ Shol LIy or Shola, don’t make that mistake that even if your wife proofs too sturbborn or too difficult, you must still love her. Let me give you a little bit of advice, if you have been doing that you must stop. No matter how pretty you are, you may end up losing your husband if you are becoming too burdensome.
There are many way in which you can draw the attention of your man to yourself. If you want your man to consider your opinion, you can do that without blowing it out of proportion. We men are like children, make him comfortable, cook his favorite food and ask him whatever you want from him, he will listen. On the order hand, if you think giving him headache is the best option, then go ahead and see the result.
If the situation has come to the point of when your husband no longer feels coming back home directly from work and he prefers stoping by a friend’s house in order to avoid your trouble, then you know that separation is imminent. Giving your man too much problems always diminish love. No man will continue loving a problematic wife. That is why most men end up marrying 2nd wife because of the hardship created by their Jezebel wives.
I’m not a fan of Pastor Oyakilomeh but what he is saying is true even though he tried to reference this aspect to his wife but that doesn’t make it far from the truth. Unless we go back to the old ways and follow the law which God’s has laid down for us, some household will continue to suffer due to love lost.
Shol Lly
September 9, 2016 at 7:50 PM
@Jilo. May I please ask you how you define the way Christ loves the church. True and genuine love conquers all including a wife that’s not submissive. If God was to turn His back on us because of our rebellious ways what do you think would happen. People should stop picking on aspect of the scripture and leaving the other one.
In a truly Godly home, the man will love His wife unconditionally. Where in the Bible did it state that a wife that’s not submissive is an excuse for divorce?
Submissive can be cheaply earned with love. When a husband has full filled his own side then it’ll be easy for him to go to God in prayer as the head of the house he is responsible and accountable for his home according to the Bible.
Bible never called husbands masters. Masters have slaves however wives are help meets.
Jilo
September 10, 2016 at 7:38 PM
@ Shol LIy from your comments, it appears that you are one of those women who think snuffing life out of their husband is normal. I don’t think so but from your response it amazes me when you kept on making a point that since a man has married a woman he must continuing loving her because that is his cross and he must carry it, even if that woman is as wicked as devil.
Let me ask you if you have a man who constantly beating a hell out of you everyday, treating you like a piece of trash and dehumanizing you as a female, would you continue to love that man just because you have married him then you must continue dealing with that abuse. You need to be honest with yourself, your love for that man will erode in no time.
If is written in the book of God that be submissive to your husband not being a slave to him, why not follow the scripture and follow God’s rule. When you try to claim some right over your husband, then you are rebelling against the rule of God.
Shol Lly
September 9, 2016 at 7:53 PM
After all it was the man that chose to marry her in the first place. Not the other way round. So he has full responsibility. When eve gave Adam the apple God didn’t call Eve to ask what has happened he called Adam to ask.
sola olaniyi
September 10, 2016 at 10:30 AM
i agree with him on this
Ms ERANKO
September 11, 2016 at 12:19 PM
THANK YOU, MR SLAVE MASTER
Nkosi khupe
October 12, 2018 at 9:16 PM
Read colosians 3, 1 petter 3 , ephisians 5 22. The bible says sarah called her husband master…. And encourages wives to see their husbands like so without fear