The Secret To Success Is Giving, Not Taking
By Lanre Amodu
Someone once told me that the word “free” is one of the most popular on the Internet. While I can’t confirm that claim, I can at least tell you that a search for the word on Google as at the time of writing this article returns over 13 billion entries! If the old law of demand and supply still holds, then I would say that people have a great appetite for free things. Of course, you know that not everything that is tagged “free” is actually free; some give you a taste and then ask you for a fee. Notwithstanding, marketers seem to know the power of the word so they use it to attract prospects.
On the other hand, the word “give” has a little above 4 billion entries, which is only a quarter of entries for the word “free”. Before you tell me that 4 billion is quite a big figure, let me quickly mention that about 1.3 billion of that is “give me”. It appears that people are more preoccupied with what they can get. In fact, a lot of people define success in terms of what they can acquire.
For the record, there is nothing wrong with the word free. In fact, some of the most precious things in life are free, such as the gift of life itself. Nevertheless, you will agree with me that most people think of the word in terms of what they can get rather than what they can give. There are few words that make people uncomfortable like “giving”. There is a kind of fear that comes with it. We tend to think that when we give, we lose. How wrong we can be! Giving is one of the most powerful forces in the world. Here are a few reasons giving is so powerful:
It attracts people to you: have you ever wondered why Santa Claus is so popular during the Christmas season, particularly among children? It’s because of his association with presents. Parents almost make it a tradition to take their children to Christmas shows where they would take pictures with Santa and of course receive their much anticipated gifts. According to Andrew D. Blechman, in his book “Pigeons: The Fascinating Saga of the World’s Most Revered and Reviled Bird”, when you feed pigeons, they visit regularly. The amount of food you give determines the number of birds around you. If you give too much feed, you will experience overcrowding. Giving does not have to be financial or material. Actors, musicians, comedians, etc., give their skills and their followership never stops growing. You may not have something big but just give.
It multiplies what you give: have you ever tried giving a simple smile to people around you? All of a sudden, you notice everyone seems to be smiling back at you. You gave one smile but you got several in return. When you give, you attract gifts. It may be a simple compliment that you give to a storekeeper or a cabman; other patrons after you may then wonder why that storekeeper or cabman ‘seems particularly cheerful today’. You sowed the seed they are enjoying. In the same way, a rude comment or nasty attitude can ruin someone’s day who would go on to ruin the days of several other people by transferring the aggression. You can make a point of giving simple gifts to people every day and your life will never lack the cheer.
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June 20, 2018 at 3:16 AM
Well said @ writer.
June 20, 2018 at 5:37 AM
You can’t give what you don’t have and that’s where people always make mistake, forcing themselves to give what they don’t have to impress. And people who give with intention of reward never get multiple returns.
June 20, 2018 at 7:52 PM
YOU DO NOT HAVE TO GIVE, PLEASE TEACH THEM HOW TO ACHIEVE THEMSELVES AND BELIEVE IN THEMSELVES. CREATE SOMETHING THAT WOULD KEEP PEOPLE BUSY.