March 4, 2012 – Couples, Your Bed Is Yours And Not Your Children’s
As we know it’s exciting to have your little one with you when you’re sleeping it’s an act to demonstrate bondness among family members. naijagists.com
Do you know it has harmful effect also?
That act exposes children to ‘doing what mummy and daddy’ do. How? You never know what kids are up to when you assume they are asleep.
As parents, when you share same bed with your children, you sacrifice your privacy for sex which is the essential feature of a rich and full marriage.
Do you know that during sleep, the normal adult male will have an erection approximately every 90 minutes? Imagine his daughter waking up to see!
Points To Note:
Do not engage in sexual activities with your partner when you have your toddlers or pre-teens in bed with you. Don’t assume that some children do not hear those sounds you make during intimacy.
Couples, Children and Their Privacy Tips
• Make them sleep in their rooms
When a child refuses to sleep in his bed and comes to you demanding comfort, get up and go with the child back into his room. Tuck your child in, talk softly and offer words of comfort. You can lie on the bed next to your child, offering the comfort of your physical closeness and nurturing touch.
• Encourage your child to think positively about things he/she can do or think of what will lead to him feeling strong. You can promise that you will stay until he falls back to sleep and when this happens, return to your own bed. Repeat this routine as needed. Your children will learn that their room is their own special and safe place in the house. They’ll develop a sense that they can take care of themselves.
• Plan to have the child sleep in his or her own bed by the time he/she ceases breastfeeding (age 6 to 12 months).
• If you insist on having your child in the bed or bedroom with you, plan scheduled times (once or twice a week) for couple privacy, when the baby is alone in another room for a short few hours. It is imperative the couples maintain a focus on their relationship without distraction and interference, even from a young infant.
There is nothing as good as a happy family but it’s even better when daddy and mom have their privacy.