Kogi State News
“I Have Never Enjoyed My Marriage, No Rest Of Mind & Peace As My Husband Is Short Tempered” – Woman Tells Court
“I Have Never Enjoyed My Marriage, No Rest Of Mind & Peace As My Husband Is Short Tempered”- Woman Tells Court
Mr Halimat Yaya, has pleaded with an Agege Customary Court to dissolve her 23-year-old marriage with her husband, Ahmed Yaya, for being foul-tempered.
The 42-year-old business woman and mother of four, an indigene of Kogi, whose marriage was contracted in 1995, said there was no more love between them as
the man has turned her into a punching bag.
“l have never enjoyed my marriage,no rest of mind and peace as my husband is temperamental and finds fault in everything l do.
“My husband beats me whenever he feels like. He does not take care of me even when I fall sick, l am tired of the marriage,” she told the
court.
The petitioner alleged that since they have been living together they did not understand each other.
Halimat described her husband as an aggressive person and that life with him has become unbearable, urging the court to dissolve
the marriage.
“l want the court to separate us as I have moved out of his house since June 2017.”
The respondent, Ahmed, 48, however, denied all allegations leveled against him by his wife but said he was ready for dissolution.
“I still love and care for my wife,”.
“I practically made my wife what she is today, maybe she has met someone she thinks is better and wealthier than I am that is why
she wants the marriage dissolved,” he added.
On the alleged beatings, he said:
“We live in a face-to-face apartment, my neighbours can testify to it that I do not beat her.
“My wife no longer finds me worthy of being her husband and I take no offence for that.”
The court’s President, Mrs Ibironke Elabor, urged the estranged couple to be law abiding and maintain peace pending the conclusion
of the case.
She adjourned the case until July 31 for judgment.
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Oduyemi Kunle
July 11, 2018 at 6:38 PM
I cry for women going through what this woman went thru.
She is doing the best thing.
Lola O
July 12, 2018 at 1:30 AM
A lot of women endure abuse and domestic violence just for the sake of their children and the stigma that society attaches to divorced women, but sadly not the men. I know someone who’s husband would beat her up in their bedroom and she endured it for years without raising her voice or crying out loud, in order not to alert the children. She would weep bitterly and afterwards pretend that everything was fine in the presence of her children. I am happy for this woman who has summoned courage to end the misery. Marriage is not a bondage. If it becomes a potential risk to your life or security, get out while you still have your life and sanity intact.
MADAM ERANKO
July 13, 2018 at 6:34 PM
YOU DO NOT HAVE TO LET YOUR LIFE DEPEND ON ANY ASSHOLE, THIS MAN MAY BE SUFFERING FROM OTHELO SYNDROM OR ASPERNGER.
IT IS BETTER TO GO AND CREATE YOUR OWN LIFE , WORK HARD, AND HAVE YOUR OWN MONEY , TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF , STOP, HAVING IT IN YOUR BRAIN THAT MEN WOULD LOOK AFTER YOU.
STOP ASKING MEN FOR MONEY, AVOID JOINT ACCOUNT WITH ANY ONE, THERE IS NO OURS , BUT ME , YOUR OWN JOB AND YOUR OWN MONEY. SOME MEN ARE MENTALY SICK.
CREATE YOUR OWN SPACE, YOU DO NOT HAVE TO LIVE WITH A MAN, WHEN YOU LIVE WITH MEN , YOU DO NOT ENJOY THEM BECAUSE THEIR SPERM BANK IS EMPTY , SO , IT IS BETTER NOT TO LIVE WITH THEM , BECAUSE THEY WILL TREAT YOU LIKE MAID.
BECAUSE YOU ENJOY THEM WHEN YOU ARE NOT LIVING WITH THEM.MA